Airdrop, the Internet, and why one hour at the gym feels 10 times longer than a Netflix hour are amongst the things that our brains struggle to understand. Want to know one more? Acne. As an adult. The evenings of homework and awkward interactions with literally everyone are behind us (kinda), so what could be the reason for troublesome skin clinging on as long as this pandemic well into sufferers late 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond? 

Adult acne, characterised as acne presenting in those aged 25 and above, is oftentimes caused by the same root issues as those in their teens, however continues presenting into adulthood during which time it is expected that sebum (oil) production would decrease and skin would naturally calm down. As with troublesome skin at any age, these spots can be extremely painful and difficult to manage, and despite skin positive movements on social media and a shift towards embracing complexions that aren’t airbrushed beyond recognition, a study by the British Journal of Dermatology found that there was a 63% increased risk of depression in those with acne compared to someone without. Narratives around conventional beauty are continually evolving in the 21st century, but it’s clear that acne and skin conditions in general still have a huge impact upon self-esteem and self-image.

Last year saw #CleanBeauty and makeup routines take TikTok For You Pages by storm, and when mostly donned by those without so much of a pore insight,  it’s easy to feel like your natural, textured skin falls short of these unattainable beauty ideals. 

“Acne can certainly be influenced by stress too, and taking steps to reduce stress levels in your life may have a positive impact on your skin. Body acne can be exacerbated by wearing tight-fitting occlusive clothing for prolonged periods of time. Avoid staying in sweaty gym gear after a workout.” Whilst lifestyle factors and taking care to manage habits that could exacerbate a buildup of oil and dirt are helpful, Dr Phillips also notes that it’s important not to overlook changes to your skin in adulthood if this is unusual for you. “If the symptoms have come out of the blue, medical assessment is important to exclude any potential underlying conditions. The British Association of Dermatologists website is an excellent resource with information leaflets, support groups and explanation of treatments” 

The impact of other factors like diet and drinking 2 litres of water a day is somewhat disputed in its impact upon acne, and it can be frustrating for those who suffer with long term skin issues to feel that they’re seemingly not doing ‘enough’ to control breakouts. So whilst eating your 5 a day and staying hydrated on the daily won’t resolve acne overnight, it can be a useful first step in improving your skin’s overall health. 

How to know which type of spot you’re dealing with

The first step in progress is education, so whether you’re content with your texture, spots and blackheads as they are, or want to take small steps to manage acne in 2022, learning about why our skin behaves the way it does is integral to making progress. Technical lingo incoming…

A comedo (medical term) is a hair follicle that has become clogged with oil and dead skin cells, which can develop into bumps commonly known as the classic whitehead and blackhead. Non- scientific fact: they always appear when you have a first date or wedding coming up because the universe is frankly cruel. 

Blackheads

Blackheads are comedones that are open at the surface of the skin and often look dark in appearance, hence the name, occurring when a clogor plug develops in the opening of the hair follicle. Their black appearance occurs from the oxidation of build-up within the pore, but they are classed as a relatively mild form of acne and can often be managed with the right skincare. 

Whiteheads

Comedones that stay closed at the surface of the skin are called whiteheads- the main difference between white and blackheads being one remains open whilst the other is closed. A combination of dirt, oil, sweat and dead skin cells are still the main cause, and again can be treated with the right skincare and managing oil levels. 

Top tip:  Make-up labelled as non comedogenic is less likely to block pores and lead to these kinds of spots. 

Cystic Acne

Cystic acne is generally considered the most serious form of acne, typically occurring to those with oily skin and mostly caused by a combination of bacteria, oil, and dry skin cells getting trapped within pores. Cystic acne often looks like boils underneath the skin, are usually white or red in appearance and can be painful and tender to touch. These cysts are typically filled with pus, and whilst mostly occurring on the face, can also be present on the back, chest, neck and shoulders.  

Nodular Acne

Nodular acne feels firm to touch in comparison to cystic acne and can also be incredibly painful, occurring deeper underneath the skin’s surface. Nodular acne can be very persistent and it may take weeks or months for these nodules to heal as they are incredibly stubborn once formed. This type of acne can be caused by overactive oil glands, an overgrowth of acne-causing bacteria and an increase in androgen hormones, which can lead to more and thicker skin oil.

Acne Conglobata 

Acne conglobata occurs when acne cysts and nodules begin to grow together deep below the skin. This form of acne is rare, but can be serious because of the significant scarring that can follow. Following a dermatologist’s advice and using a combination of medication in combination with topical treatments is recommended as these products applied directly to the skin will not be able to resolve this form of acne.

Regardless of the type of acne you’re dealing with, receiving expert advice and medical support in managing this complex condition is always recommended in finding the perfect formula of skincare, lifestyle changes and potentially medication that works for you in managing breakouts.

Dr Phillips advises: “Make an appointment to see your GP or dermatologist. They can provide emotional support and evidence-based advice on how to manage your acne. Acne is caused by a complex interplay between genetic and environmental factors. Whilst we cannot change our genes, environmental factors can be modified with topical treatments, antibiotics, Roaccutane, hormonal treatments, diet and skincare.”

Roaccutane is an oral medication often prescribed as a last resort for those suffering with long term acne in adulthood, and although it has a 95% success rate of clearing up acne in four to six months, with 70% of those who take it saying they never suffer from acne again, it does come with a heavy list of side effects and warnings that make it somewhat controversial. Keep your eyes peeled on Zoella.com later this month for a full rundown of this life changing yet divisive drug…

Phew! Acne in adulthood can be a difficult and complex condition to manage, but amongst the skincare remedies, lifestyle changes and medication options, it’s important to hold space for a slice of self love, compassion and acceptance for where you’re currently at, and try to celebrate the beauty of skin in all its forms. Fill your social media with those that look like and represent you, repeat affirmations that cement in your mind that your worth is not based upon your appearance, and remind yourself often that real skin contains pores, texture, spots, redness and everything in between. Real life doesn’t come with an airbrush filter, and we’re glad of it…  

Our favourite skin positivity influencers to add a dose of realness and unfiltered beauty to your feed

@rocioceja_

Outfit inspo, infectious positivity and came-to-slay makeup looks: Rocio has all bases covered for a truly feel-good scroll. The queen of recreating Euphoria looks that will have you reaching for the gem stones ASAP, Rocio has long documented her acne journey and the skincare, foundations and powders you need to feel confident going bare faced when you want to, and rocking a 10/10 glam on the other days too. 

@emeraldxbeauty

Kadeeja’s Instagram is one for both acne and PCOS sufferers alike, as she shares the raw reality of living with these conditions and the impact it has on her daily life, self esteem and mental health too. Kadeeja practises ‘progress not perfection’ when it comes to her skin journey and healing, and it’s no surprise she’s built such a wide community of followers who feel seen and heard by her story.   

@lounorthcote

Creator of the #FreeThePimple hashtag and through and through real skin activist, Lou dreamed up this hashtag and now worldwide community after losing her modelling contract to her acne and difficulties with her skin. Her Instagram is a one stop shop for skincare recommendations, a raw look at her personal Roaccutane journey, and daily reminders that you are more than the condition of your skin, always. 

@oyintofe.o

Describing herself as a ‘skin realist’, Oyintofe has long shared how acne has impacted her mental health before finding, embracing and practising the lessons of the skin positivity movement that have helped so many find acceptance in their complexion. She says, “I realised that acne itself didn’t affect my confidence, it was the way I looked at it that did. I am still trying to accept that it is normal. It happens to a lot of people and it doesn’t make me less beautiful.” Preach it sister!

@moniqueschreiber

Recent bride (her October 2021 wedding has us shook at THAT 11/10 dress), South African dreamboat Monique has shared her Roaccutane and skin journey in all its highs and lows, giving a real and relatable insight into life with painful breakouts and cystic acne. Her honesty in sharing the messy reality of learning to love and appreciate the skin society so often demonises is unmatched, and her work in normalising acne saw her featured in Cosmopolitan magazine last year. 

@cottyconcha

Skin, body *and* OCD awareness has cemented Constanza as one of our favourite people to follow on Instagram when in need of a raw, normal look at the female body and the complexities that come with occupying it. Her honesty in sharing her acne and scarred skin journey even saw her feature as a Glamour magazine digital cover star in 2021, and we couldn’t think of anyone more deserving! 

Cottagecore, Bridgerton and nature were all big themes for the babies of 2021, and given the last two years of turbulence and confinement, it’s really no surprise that new parents were drawn to a sense of hope, escapism, bygone eras and the great outdoors. 

When you think about the magnitude of, ya know, naming a tiny human for the rest of their life, it’s a wonder any parent manages to name their child at all. You need a moniker that’s sweet enough for primary school, strong enough to serve them in parliament and low stakes in the risk-of-becoming-a-meme department (Karen is basically extinct at this point). With a brief like that, it’s easy to spiral into overwhelm, but looking at the 2022 trend forecast is a great starting point, even if it’s to identify exactly what names you want to avoid. 

Stumped on the perfect name for your little one? Whether you’re pregnant, trying to conceive, doing your due diligence for a mama-to-be in your life, or simply want to keep your iPhone notes well-stocked for when a future bun is in the proverbial oven (*locked* iPhone notes because no one will get their mitts on your name), here’s a look at the top baby name predictions for 2022… 

The most popular names for 2020 

Before we get into this year’s predictions, let’s look at the names that topped the charts over the course of the pandemic. 

According to the latest data from Office for National Statistics (ONS) 2020, Oliver held onto the top spot for the eighth year running, whilst Olivia remained the favourite girls name for the fifth consecutive year. Ivy climbed 221 places to the sixth most popular girls name, entering the top 10 charts for the first time alongside Rosie, and replacing Grace and Freya.

For the first time since 2010, Charlie dropped off the top 10 boys list and Archie, the name chosen by the Duke and Duchess of Sussex for their firstborn, entered the top 10 for the first time since records began.

Maeve has also enjoyed a beautiful renaissance, climbing 124 places since 2019, as has Otis which was among the largest movers too, moving 28 places to 96th in the top 100 list. The power of Sex Education knows no bounds. 

Sian Bradford, Senior Research Officer at ONS, said, “We continue to see the age of mothers having an impact on the choice of baby name. Archie jumped into the top 10 boys’ names for the first time, driven by younger mothers as well as the obvious Royal link. While on the girls’ side Ivy rose to sixth place.”

“Popular culture continues to provide inspiration for baby names, whether it’s characters in our favourite show or trending celebrities. Maeve and Otis, characters from the popular programme ‘Sex Education’, have seen a surge in popularity in 2020. While the name Margot has been rapidly climbing since actress Margot Robbie appeared in the popular film ‘The Wolf of Wall Street’.”

Top 100 Girls Names of 2021

Top 100 Boys Names

Baby Name Trend Predictions for 2022 

Character Names

With season 2 landing in March (Lady Whistledown’s Society Papers will be heading to print any day now), Bridgerton is the talk of the Ton once more. Regencycore names such as Daphne, Phoebe and Benedict are set to dominate the charts as they did in 2021, shortly after the acclaimed period drama first graced our screens in December 2020 and subsequently took over our lives. 

Nameberry, the world’s largest website dedicated to baby names, wagers that the likes of more uncommon character names and on-trend actor names will also ascend the charts this year *adds Regé to the list immediately*. 

More examples: 

• Albion
• Cressida
• Edwina
• Eloise
• Euphemia
• Francesca 
• Genevieve
• Hyacinth
• Kity
• Marina
• Philippa
• Portia
• Prudence
• Rupert
• Simon
• Theo

Playful Names 

Listen up mums of 2022, you’re not a regular mum, you’re a cool mum, and fun is the name of the game this year. Short, lighthearted and endearing names, sometimes with a nod to animals, such as Coco, Ziggy, Bear, Birdie, Gigi and Buddy, are predicted to be more popular than ever after two years of restrictions, isolation and living in a pit of despair, to put it bluntly. A cute, uplifting name to match your light at the end of the tunnel – what could be more apt than that? 

More examples: 

• Bee
• Cricket
• Dovie
• Honey
• Lucky
• Lulu
• Moxie
• Ozzy
• Pixie
• Rocky
• Sonny
• Teddy
• Trixie 

Escapist Names 

Unsurprisingly, cool ‘n’ earthy nature names are here to stay after even our best-laid travel plans went awry thanks to *drum roll please* another new variant. Our appreciation for mama nature coupled with some serious wanderlust has meant we’re expanding our horizons this year from the coast to the woodlands. 

“We expect to see beachy baby names get a boost, especially in the wake of the hit HBO series The White Lotus, set in an idyllic Hawaiian island resort.

Other trending nature names for 2022 will evoke wild, rugged, expansive landscapes – think Prairie, Dune, Ridge and Sequoia,” the Nameberry experts have predicted. 

Bali, Bay, Capri, Forest, Coast, Woods and Ocean are also tipped to rock the charts this year. We’re thinking of Katie Hopkins at this difficult time…

More examples: 

• Banyan
• Horizon
• Koa
• Lotus
• Meridian
• Palmer
• Reef
• Ridge
• Taiga
• Zephyr 

Gender Neutral Names

Spoiler: They’re going nowhere. As conversations around gender evolve beyond the pink is for girls and blue is for boys narrative, non-binary baby names will continue to rise up the ranks, with boys names being used for girls and softer girls names such as Artemis, Juniper and Nova, for boys.

Hell yes for progress and more choice, whatever the sex of your child. The biggest trend for 2022 is challenging societal expectations and calling your baby whatever gender-bending name you want. 

• Artemis 
• Blair 
• Echo
• Harlow
• Holland
• Honor
• Indigo
• Juniper 
• Laurie
• Lou
• Lux
• Marlowe
• Nova
• Nyx
• Sasha
• Scout
• Shiloh
• Sunny
• Winter
• Wren 

Spiritual & Virtue Names 

To balance out the negative energy of the last two years, parents will be drawing on divine powers, looking to ancient mythology and spirituality for inspiration. 

Expect to see virtue names such as Dream, True, Shine, Psalm and Praise pop up alongside Sanskrit names like Veda and Rishi. The Kardashians, as ever, were way ahead of the curve with this one. 

• Alma
• Amenadiel
• Brave
• Creed
• Galilee
• Irie
• Jericho 
• Kali
• Promise
• Revere
• Righteous
• Soul 

Names Ending in ‘S’

How a name sounds is just as important as how it looks in 2022, so make way for some seriously stylish names ending in ‘S’ – as pleasing for the ears as they are on the eyes. 

• Atlas
• Aurelius
• Banks 
• Collins
• Emrys
• Eros
• Helios
• Hollis
• Idris
• Ignatius
• Jules
• Lois
• Osiris
• Ozias
• Rhodes
• Rivers
• Thaddeus 
• Townes
• Wells

Retro Names 

If you’re looking for a name that will stand the test of time, old school is always a good idea. Charming vintage names steeped in history offer something distinctive and characterful, without the risk of being too ‘edgy’. From classic books and authors to the golden age of cinema and the period drama greats such as Downton Abbey, looking to the past for your modern day baby is one way to discover an antique gem. 

Naming your baby after a favourite grandparent can also be a meaningful way to honour their memory with the ultimate tribute. Make like Meghan and Prince Harry and opt for a timeless name like Lilibet that’ll transcend the trends for years to come. Grandma / grandpa chic is going nowhere, kids!

• Betty
• Bobby
• Constance
• Etta
• Frank
• Goldie
• Gene 
• Gus
• Hank 
• Louie
• Mae
• Ned
• Nellie
• Polly
• Ralph
• Ray
• Sally
• Susie
• Victor
• Vincent 

Lyrical Names

For the music lovers of the universe, your Spotify Wrapped is all you need to have an on-trend child in 2022. Lyrical names are on the rise, from Sonnet meaning ‘little song’ to Rhapsody (Queen fans, our work here is done) and it feels different from anything we’ve seen before. If you’re on the hunt for something unique, your listening habits could provide all the shortlist potential you need. 

The feminine urge to name our collective Team Zoella child: Evermore…

• Allegra
• Anthem
• Brio
• Calypso
• Caprice
• Coda
• Drummer
• Jazz
• Lyra 
• Major
• Rhapsody
• Rhythm
• Solo
• Sonnet
• Strummer
• Symphony 

Here in the UK, three-quarters of a million people are thought to be living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) but despite the figures and recent strides in mental health awareness, it’s still misunderstood by those who haven’t experienced it firsthand.

Although many of us might question if we’ve locked the car or turned the hob off, these thoughts are manageable, not obsessional, and don’t impact our day-to-day lives, jobs or social interactions. Living with OCD goes far beyond perfectionism, cleanliness and next-level organisation skills, and to suggest ‘being a bit OCD’ is a personality quirk is undermining the severity of the disorder. A clean home, perfectly styled rainbow bookcase or carefully curated Kardashian cookie jar is an interior styling choice, if anything, not a mental health disorder. 

Even if they know their obsessions are not realistic, people with OCD have difficulty disengaging from their obsessive thoughts and compulsions, making it a particularly isolating experience often accompanied with an element of shame and secrecy. The anxiety caused by OCD makes it difficult to resist the urge to carry out a compulsion once an obsession is triggered. 

What is OCD?

OCD is a serious anxiety-related condition that affects 1-2% of the UK population (OCD Action), with around half of those cases falling into the severe category. It is typically characterised by two components – recurring intrusive thoughts referred to as obsessions, and compulsive behaviours arising as a result of the anxiety caused by the intrusive thoughts.

Despite how it’s portrayed in the media and in popular culture, it can present itself in many different forms, not just frequent hand washing and checking light switches. According to OCD UK, there are five main categories but it’s possible for obsessions and compulsions to differ from the below or overlap, depending on the individual and the severity of their disorder. 

• Checking
• Contamination / Mental Contamination
• Symmetry and Ordering
• Ruminations / Intrusive Thoughts
• Hoarding 

OCD is often referred to as the secret problem, so it isn’t always easy to spot due to the misconceptions surrounding the disorder and the very nature of it being a mental health condition. Some people with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder contend with mental chatter and ruminations, alongside rituals such as repeating words or numbers in their mind until they feel safe to resume, rather than physical compulsions. Pure O (Purely Obsessional), for example, is a type of OCD in which a sufferer has obsessions and mental as opposed to external compulsions, such as trying to stop the thoughts, avoidance or trying to replace unwanted intrusive thoughts with good thoughts.  

The average time between the onset of OCD and treatment is 12 years, namely due to the stigma associated with mental health disorders but once diagnosed, OCD can be managed effectively with Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, medication and support groups. 

Professor David Veale, one of the Founders of OCD Action and Consultant Psychiatrist in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy explains, “The first treatment for OCD is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy that includes exposure. This means having a good understanding of how your current solutions are maintaining your distress. You then go on to face your fears, to tolerate your anxiety and to test out your expectations. For example, if you have unacceptable thoughts about harming children, it means being with children without any checking that you have not harmed a child or trying to undo a harm that you think you might have done. It also means helping you to reclaim your life.

“As your OCD improves, it’s important to ‘fill the void’ left, deepening your connection with others, and engaging in the work, education and interests that are important to you. Sometimes medication in the form of a SSRI may be helpful in more severe forms of OCD.”

In this interview, we speak to people with OCD to understand what living with the mental health disorder is really like. From how they manage their obsessions and compulsions, seeking professional help and the myths vs reality of having an incredibly misunderstood mental health condition. 

Darcey’s Story

How long have you had OCD and what was the road to diagnosis like for you?

I’ve had OCD symptoms since around age 8 I believe, I remember quite clearly as a child constantly having the need to put my tongue to the roof of my mouth and it used to really frustrate me that I couldn’t stop, I now know this was a form of compulsion. I wasn’t actually diagnosed with OCD though until I was 20, I had always been diagnosed with anxiety, although anxiety and OCD quite often go hand-in-hand.

I attended a CBT course for anxiety and said to the woman running it that this course helped but it didn’t pinpoint everything I was feeling, like the need to do a ritual otherwise something bad would happen, even small things like if the volume on the TV was on an odd number I’d be convinced something terrible would happen if I didn’t change the volume to an even number, which meant either I had to change it or I had to vocalise my discomfort to the person controlling the volume. After this, I was quite quickly diagnosed with OCD after discussing more of my compulsions etc, but to be honest even reading up online prior I knew I had it, but I didn’t want to self-diagnose.

Symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) vary from person to person, what does OCD look like for you and how does it affect your day-to-day life?

My OCD seemed to develop over time and quite slowly, so it began when I was younger having this need to do small compulsions like touching the roof of my mouth and not knowing why I was doing them. Then as I got older I constantly checked things, if I unplugged my straighteners, did I leave the hob on, did I lock the door. I had to check these things multiple times otherwise I’d convince myself something awful would happen and it would be all my fault. This is kind of just like anxiety too, so I think this is why it didn’t get recognised in me sooner.

It was only really in my late teens / early 20’s that I started to feel the full force of OCD. I’d have such distressing thoughts and imagery in my mind of stuff I would never want to do to anyone or myself. This would be towards people I love, my friends, children, animals and even strangers, the thoughts would circle in my mind so much I convinced myself I was a terrible person.

Mentally it is so incredibly draining as it feels like your mind is betraying you, why am I thinking these things? This led to compulsions like doing ‘touchwood’ repetitively in order to feel safe from these thoughts or making a wish at 11:11 every day in order to keep me and my family safe. It really started to affect my daily life as I spent hours thinking about these images, being upset by them and feeling like I couldn’t tell anyone because I was worried about what people would think. OCD also caused me to completely mistrust myself, to the point I’d question my religious views, my sexuality, who I am as a person, how do people view me if I can’t even view myself properly? I know deep down my beliefs and who I am, but OCD makes you question EVERYTHING. 

Are there certain triggers for your obsessions/compulsions?

When I’m having a bad spell of OCD anything that is even remotely related to my intrusive thoughts can trigger them, TV, books, daily life. I went through a stage of avoiding things in order to stop the thoughts, but that’s not healthy and really it makes you think about it more. I still, to this day, can’t pick up a kettle without envisioning me spilling the boiling water on me, same with a pan of boiling rice or pasta. I also can’t have volume on an uneven number as it still fills me with fear, but luckily these thoughts don’t affect me as much after a lot of therapy. 

Are there certain times or situations when your symptoms worsen?

My symptoms are usually worse when I am having a bad anxious period, this is when the fear behind the intrusive thoughts creeps back in and therefore I find I start to slip back into doing compulsions. 

How do you manage living with OCD? Have you explored psychological treatment, support groups or anxiety management techniques?

My OCD has improved greatly due to two main things;

1) I went through a really traumatic period when my Mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer, after this happened I realised that any compulsion I gave into didn’t stop bad things happening to me, especially like making a wish at 11:11. Awful circumstances but since that day we found out I’ve never made a wish at 11:11 or touched wood in order to calm myself and these compulsions took over my life prior.

2) I went to therapy and have been for over a year now, it took quite a while to open up about my intrusive thoughts due to fear of being judged but once I had spoken about them, they instantly began to lose their power. Anyone struggling with OCD, please don’t underestimate how freeing it will be once you speak to a professional. 

Whilst there are some external, physical signs & symptoms of OCD, it can also be an invisible mental illness. Can you talk to us about the emotional struggle of living with OCD and how some compulsions are not always quite so obvious?

I think most of my compulsions were within my mind (except for touching wood / my head if there was no wood around ha). I know a few people with OCD who find the ruminating about things the hardest, the thoughts and then the more thoughts about how terrible you must be if you are having those thoughts, they circle around your head for hours. I think that’s the real reality for OCD for most people. 

Many people use the phrase “I’m a bit OCD” to describe themselves but there’s an acute difference between, say, liking an organised desk and having OCD. What common misconceptions or assumptions do you find particularly frustrating?

This is the misconception I find the most frustrating! It’s perpetuated by celebrities like Khloe Kardashian who is super organised and tidy, so says she’s super OCD. Of course, I don’t know her medical history, but OCD is so debilitating and exhausting, so when someone makes light of it, you usually know they probably aren’t really experiencing it. The media is to blame as well, with cleaning programmes having people with OCD tidying messy houses. Don’t get me wrong, cleaning and contamination is a real side of OCD, but it’s the tip of the iceberg. 

The lack of understanding, even amongst professionals, can be particularly isolating. What changes would you like to see to ensure those living with OCD are seen, understood and supported?

I’d really like large platforms speaking more openly about the less ‘glamorous’ side of OCD. I think seeing others speak about their own experiences is so helpful for others suffering. I found so much peace when I found Instagram and Tik Tok accounts from other people with OCD and realised we all had the same thoughts, I cried for hours after seeing a random video on Tik Tok pop up from someone talking about their experience as I just felt so reassured and heard by it. If it was more openly spoken about, more people would get the help they need from professionals, but because the nature of our thoughts can be so scary and horrendous, people keep it a secret, I certainly did for a while.

Lauren’s Story

How long have you had OCD and what was the road to diagnosis like for you?

I was officially diagnosed with OCD at age 15, but I was struggling with symptoms of OCD many years before I even knew what it was. I was “functioning” with my OCD for more than two years before I hit a “crisis point” when I needed medical intervention, as I was no longer able to function in my everyday life. Once I had my diagnosis, I was put on medication and partook in CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). Since then, my condition has been very manageable.

Symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) vary from person to person, what does OCD look like for you and how does it affect your day-to-day life?

My symptoms include a variety of obsessions, compulsions and associated mental health conditions, including depression, anxiety, and some disordered eating. My obsessive thoughts include an irrational fear of harming others by mistake, and a subsequent fear of contamination, an illogical fear that I am unwanted by my friends and family and a large fear of failure. These obsessions lead to compulsions, such as repeatedly checking appliances, hand washing, asking for reassurance and avoiding people or places that may “trigger” my obsessive thoughts.

Currently, my everyday life is largely unaffected by OCD (though I still have some relapses, especially during the pandemic), but before my diagnosis, I would try and neutralise my obsessive thoughts with compulsive behaviour many times every day.

Are there certain triggers for your obsessions or compulsions? Are there certain times or situations when your symptoms worsen?

Unfortunately, the pandemic is a trigger for my obsessive thoughts about contamination. I think that a lot of people with this specific aspect of OCD have been greatly affected by this very uncertain time in our lives. Being in isolation, without any social interaction, worsens my symptoms as I do much better mentally when I am busy. Furthermore, exams are a big trigger for my obsessive thoughts about failure and thus exam periods would be very difficult for me! Luckily, I’m at the stage in my life where I no longer must do exams.

How do you manage living with OCD? Have you explored psychological treatment, support groups or anxiety management techniques?

I manage my depression, a by-product of my OCD, through medication. I have explored CBT and to a lesser extent, DBT (Dialectical Behavioural Therapy), both of which I have found to be very helpful. I find breathing techniques, and distraction to be useful management techniques for my anxiety. I am very lucky that I have a support network of loved ones that I can talk to if I need any help.

Whilst there are some external, physical signs & symptoms of OCD, it can also be an invisible mental illness. Can you talk to us about the emotional struggle of living with OCD and how some compulsions are not always quite so obvious?

One of the hardest parts of living with OCD, for me, is living with something called “intrusive thoughts”. In my case, these involved horrible thoughts of my family and friends being harmed and thus makes me start worrying that I am not doing enough to protect my family. The burden of having to live with these thoughts without knowing what they were or being able to tell anyone (pre-diagnosis) was extremely mentally taxing. Going to school and socialising with friends became something incredibly stressful, rather than a normal part of life to be enjoyed.

One compulsion I had regarding my intrusive thoughts was to think about the thought a lot as if to “neutralise” it. It was as if the more I thought about it, the less scary the thoughts would be. As this part of my illness is invisible, no one knew that I was struggling on a day-to-day basis.

Many people use the phrase “I’m a bit OCD” to describe themselves but there’s an acute difference between, say, liking an organised desk and having OCD. What common misconceptions or assumptions do you find particularly frustrating?

I try to be understanding when I hear things like this, as I know how easy it is to say silly things accidentally. I think the misconception that OCD is about having an incredibly tidy desk is, thankfully, not as commonplace as it used to be. While it is a little frustrating that some people assume that having OCD is just about turning light switches on and off, the thing that frustrates me most is ignorance in the face of education. If you listen to people’s experiences and learn from what they are saying, you are doing everything right, in my opinion.

The lack of understanding, even amongst professionals, can be particularly isolating. What changes would you like to see to ensure those living with OCD are seen, understood and supported?

While I have been lucky in the sense that I have always had a positive and professional experience when talking to doctors about my condition, I have had negative experiences with mental health professionals in schools. When I was 17, I had a lot of my support system for exams removed, as I seemed on the surface to not need it. This was against the advice from my doctor. I found this to be devastating as I did not feel like the invisible nature of my condition was understood by these professionals. More education and funding for supporting young people with OCD in schools should be a priority. If you are unsure how best to support someone with OCD, don’t be afraid to ask. With the right support and treatment, people with OCD can (and do) live a very full and happy life.

Ellie’s Story

How long have you had OCD and what was the road to diagnosis like for you?

While I was only recently diagnosed (early September), I’ve struggled with OCD symptoms since I was fourteen years old. I found it hard talking about my symptoms – intrusive thoughts & compulsions were rarely spoken about in the media I was consuming! It was only when I turned seventeen that I started to read up on what could be causing these distressing thoughts. I put getting professional help off for a while, shrugging it off as being ‘not important enough’ (reality check: any mental health problem, big or small, is important!) but thankfully, with the support of loved ones, I reached out to medical professionals & a cognitive behavioural therapist – and that was that. 

Symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) vary from person to person, what does OCD look like for you and how does it affect your day-to-day life?

OCD for me is a very subtle & invisible mental illness. It was very easy for me to put on a brave face & perform as if all was ok, when in reality, it wasn’t. Inside my head were intrusive thoughts that genuinely scared & frightened me. Thoughts of loved ones or myself in danger or in harm’s way seemed to lurk around each corner. My main struggle was compulsions. Whenever I’d have an intrusive thought, I’d compulsively have to tap anything five to twenty-five times. It was exhausting – I can’t explain where it came from or why it eased the thoughts, but deep down I knew it wouldn’t prevent anything. If I didn’t do it, I’d panic. It was like my body was forcing me! 

Are there certain triggers for your obsessions or compulsions?

I had certain triggers – horror movies being my biggest one. For some reason, in my head, I would replace the characters I was watching on screen experiencing these terrible fates with myself, and people I knew in real life. It was nasty (having a horror-obsessed boyfriend wasn’t helping!) & honestly, made me feel more childish than I was. I had to be SO weary of the media I was consuming. So frustrating! Hearing of any sad event in someone’s life made me automatically think ‘that will happen in my life’ and happy events made me think ‘this is too good to be true – something bad is ought to happen’. 

Are there certain times or situations when your symptoms worsen?

Thankfully I could go a while sometimes without experiencing my compulsions. Periods of high stress or emotion made everything so much worse, which is to be expected. As an anxious person in my day to day life, I would often become overwhelmed and have a short burst of constant intrusive thoughts and tapping things over and over. 

How do you manage living with OCD? Have you explored psychological treatment, support groups or anxiety management techniques?

Living with OCD now is much easier than it was, now that I’m aware of it. It’s not this monster without a face anymore, it’s something I can name and talk about. My therapist taught me to recognise that I am not my thoughts, no matter how awful they are. These intrusive thoughts do not make me a horrible person for thinking them, nor do they represent what I truly want in life. Finding the evidence for my thoughts (usually there would be none!) and evaluating the true likelihood of them becoming reality was hard to master, and much easier said than done – yet once I did, it truly changed my life. 

Whilst there are some external, physical signs & symptoms of OCD, it can also be an invisible mental illness. Can you talk to us about the emotional struggle of living with OCD and how some compulsions are not always quite so obvious?

Having OCD was an emotional rollercoaster. The frustration & guilt was the awful part. When you experience thoughts of bad things happening to those you truly love, it changes the way you view yourself as a person. While the thoughts didn’t define me as a person, I thought I was evil and inhumane. How dare I think these things? Why am I thinking these things? Am I a bad person? It was like having the little devil on your shoulder – yet they aren’t whispering as they do stereotypically, they’re shouting & screaming. 

Many people use the phrase “I’m a bit OCD” to describe themselves but there’s an acute difference between, say, liking an organised desk and having OCD. What common misconceptions or assumptions do you find particularly frustrating?

“I’m a bit OCD.” We’ve all said it. Whether you like things in colour order, hate mess or must have your shoes in a particular order, this phrase is more common than it ever should have been. It takes the importance away from this mental illness and instead turns it into this adjective to be used for enjoying things that most of us like – organisation & cleanliness. It almost belittles the issue and brushes it under the carpet. Never to be spoken about. 

The lack of understanding, even amongst professionals, can be particularly isolating. What changes would you like to see to ensure those living with OCD are seen, understood and supported?

I wish more people would try to understand. It’s hard, I appreciate that. But little steps change the most! If people could be more open-minded about OCD, that would do a whole world of good. People I’ve spoken to about intrusive thoughts have genuinely said things like “gosh, that’s a bit freaky of you”. While it’s a lot to take in and understand, us intrusive thoughts & compulsions – having humans can’t control them! We’re not freaks & our thoughts and compulsions don’t make us strange or any different from you.

We need support and we need compassion from others. I’ve found that OCD is one of the least spoken about mental illnesses, especially in secondary schools. If it ever is mentioned or represented in the media, it’s almost always the same type. More diverse representation and more education to provide a better understanding of OCD would be an absolutely amazing thing for everyone. 

Olivia’s Story

How long have you had OCD and what was the road to diagnosis like for you?

I have had OCD for about 8 years now. I started experiencing symptoms in January 2014 and did not get diagnosed until 10 months later. I was only 16. The road to diagnosis was a hard one, I think this was primarily because of my family’s lack of knowledge around mental illness and our finances at the time. When it first started I didn’t really understand what was happening to me, I thought I was going crazy. At the time I didn’t feel comfortable talking to anyone about it so I ended up self-diagnosing from researching how I felt online. My parents eventually brought it up with me and we decided I should see someone about it, by that time it had gotten so severe I couldn’t hide it anymore. Mental health care professionals can be really expensive so it took time for my parents to find the money for me to see one. Eventually, I saw a psychologist and she diagnosed me with OCD, General Anxiety, Sleep Apnea and insomnia.

Symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) vary from person to person, what does OCD look like for you and how does it affect your day-to-day life?

My symptoms really change depending on the context and how I am feeling internally. Because I have had OCD for 8 years now I am pretty good at knowing what places and situations trigger me, but it can be hard to communicate those needs to other people. If I am having a particularly hard day with it I will just stay home and avoid people because it is most controllable in a familiar space. I know that when I am stressed or tired I will feel it the worse so I always have to prepare myself mentally for days like that. I do have some friends who are great with me about it but whenever I do have to explain it to someone it gets worse because I feel totally insane describing what I feel!

Are there certain triggers for your obsessions or compulsions?

My biggest trigger is with anything that lathers or foams, so washing my hands, showering, brushing my teeth and household cleaning takes a lot longer than what’s typically normal. I will always opt for sanitiser over washing my hands and will only wash my hair when I have to. Walking on surfaces that have lines or cracks can be difficult too, I always try not to look at my feet when I am walking in case I get trigged. I also tend to develop obsessions about the placement of my hands when I’m sitting or how my feet are placed when I’m standing. Honestly though, when my OCD is at its worse anything and everything will trigger me, I just have to look at something and I’ll develop an obsession!

Are there certain times or situations when your symptoms worsen?

I am currently doing my master’s degree and I know that when an assessment or exams are coming up I’m going to feel it. Avoiding stress and emotional distress are key for me to contain my OCD. In 2020 I lost three of my grandparents in one year and when I was dealing with that grief my OCD got worse. But totally avoiding negative stress and emotions is impossible so for me it’s all about preparing myself mentally and self-compassion!

How do you manage living with OCD? Have you explored psychological treatment, support groups or anxiety management techniques?

I think for a long time I didn’t manage it, I just went every day being pushed to my mental limit. I didn’t find that the first psychologist I saw helped me so I was pretty sceptical about trying another therapist. However, in 2020 I found a Counsellor who really helped me deal with the trauma which caused me to develop OCD and in the process, I have been able to get a handle on my OCD rather than it having a hold on me! Exposure therapy has also been key for me, fighting my compulsions has helped reduce the severity of them over time. I also use a CBT app which helps me feel in touch with my emotions and body.

Whilst there are some external, physical signs & symptoms of OCD, it can also be an invisible mental illness. Can you talk to us about the emotional struggle of living with OCD and how some compulsions are not always quite so obvious?

Living with OCD can definitely be really hard, especially if you are doing it alone. Before I got treatment for it there were days where I didn’t think I could do it anymore. It’s like constantly having a voice in your head telling you to do something that is totally crazy and unnecessary but is the only thing that will make you feel better. Dealing with my past trauma was definitely key to overcoming the emotional battle I was having because of my OCD, it allowed me to develop self-compassion for why I had OCD in the first place and a sense of gratitude toward myself for finding a way to cope in a time that was really terrible! 

Many people use the phrase “I’m a bit OCD” to describe themselves but there’s an acute difference between, say, liking an organised desk and having OCD. What common misconceptions or assumptions do you find particularly frustrating?

Yes! I think that phrase is the easiest way for someone to make a person with OCD feel small and even more crazy than they already do! comments like that can really hurt someone battling it; especially if they don’t have the voice to correct them. But the biggest misconception I find frustrating is when people limit what OCD can look like, OCD isn’t just about washing your hands or organising how some books look! OCD can look a myriad of ways and ultimately looks like whatever it does to the person who has it!

The lack of understanding, even amongst professionals, can be particularly isolating. What changes would you like to see to ensure those living with OCD are seen, understood and supported?

I would love to see more therapists specialise in helping people with OCD, especially becoming aware of the different types of OCD and the non-medical options people have to overcome it. A lot of people who have OCD are prescribed medication and are never told what other treatment options there are! It would also be great to see some tools developed to help people explain what OCD is like to friends and family easier!

Caitlin’s Story

How long have you had OCD and what was the road to diagnosis like for you?

I’ve had OCD for (I think) about 7 years now, as I started to experience it while I was at college. It started with checking and hand-washing compulsions, and it was actually something my mum pointed out to a doctor when I was at an appointment for something else. I was then referred to a mental health specialist, who talked to me about what I was experiencing and gave me information on OCD.

This wasn’t something I’d even thought I could have, despite looking up information on things like OCD and anxiety online, so it was quite the shock! I also had to fill in both the general mental health questionnaire and also one called the OCI (Obsessive Compulsive Inventory) which gave the specialist more of an idea about which type(s) of OCD I had. I’ve not tried medication for it, but I’ve done Exposure and Response Prevention, which is the gold standard treatment, and this worked well for me! I’m actually not sure how the diagnosis and support system works, but I’ve been treated for OCD on several different occasions both privately and on the NHS, and also declared it to my uni while I was there. I’ve never applied for disabled students allowance or anything like that though, so I can’t offer any insight on that, although I know that students with OCD were encouraged to at my uni.

Symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) vary from person to person, what does OCD look like for you and how does it affect your day-to-day life?

My OCD was noticed because it manifested in quite a physical way – I washed my hands so much that it made them really dry and cracked, especially on the back, around my wrist. At my worst, during my first year of uni, I was spending a shocking amount of time washing my hands – I would soap up and rinse them over 30 times, and this meant my new friends would often have to wait for me so we could go to eat dinner together. I would go through a bottle of liquid hand soap a week, and also used a lot of hand sanitiser while I was out and about. I would also have to use lots of hand creams to try and stop my hands from being damaged. I’m doing a lot better now, even with COVID, but I still wash my hands a lot. I often worry that people will judge me at work for it, and I’ve only ever admitted to having ‘a bit of a thing about germs’ because I’m worried it’ll affect my job if people know.

It also manifested as a lot of checking – sometimes this would involve checking ‘sensible’ things like doors being locked, or the stove being off, but I was also incredibly afraid of having posted something unpleasant on social media/email without knowing about it so I would get caught in a vicious cycle of checking and refreshing everything (usually at night, so it started to affect my sleep). It got to a point where I avoided almost all social media for several years, but I’ve slowly introduced almost everything back into my life. I still sometimes check things, both the ‘sensible’ and the social media, and can still find myself compulsively screenshotting things I’ve posted ‘just in case’.

Are there certain triggers for your obsessions or compulsions?

I’m most often triggered by things not feeling/being ‘clean’ – if I’ve touched something I would have to wash my hands before touching my face, or eating/preparing food. This is somewhat ironic to me, considering my job at the moment involves a lot of mud! If I see a fly land on my food or glass, that’s quite upsetting to me. COVID has also been quite a big trigger, but I was always careful about washing my hands (etc) anyway, and I try to follow the rules about social distancing and masks as best I can.

I can also be triggered by social media – by feelings of something not being ‘right’, or when I want to go to sleep I might still feel the need to check. For this reason, there are certain social media sites I avoid. I’m also really frightened by the idea of computer viruses or accounts being hacked, so I can be really wary of things my friends send me like YouTube/TikTok links etc.

On one very memorable occasion, OCD was used in the crime show Criminal Minds (which I used to be a big fan of), and this upset my OCD as it caused me to worry that I, like the character with the disorder, would commit some horrible crime. This is because OCD is something that goes against your values – it wants to convince you that you’re a horrible person and are putting people in danger. I often worry about things happening to my friends or family for this reason, and OCD convinces me I’m responsible for ‘preventing’ the bad things.

Are there certain times or situations when your symptoms worsen?

It seems that my OCD has been at its worst when I’ve gone through a big life change – like starting uni, for example. This is something that goes into the plan you make at the end of a limited course of therapy sessions – you talk about and note down anything that might trigger the OCD and/or cause it to worsen. I would definitely count the pandemic as one of these times – there was a point where I could barely get dressed during lockdown due to the thought of germs being on my clothes and my hands/feet, and the constant messages on TV/social media about washing hands wasn’t helpful either! I think that a breakup might also be one of those times, especially if I’ve been hiding my OCD from the person, but with that, it’s more about coping with feelings of being ‘unlovable’ or ‘a freak’ – it’s easy to blame mental health for these things, even if it’s just a case of being incompatible. On a smaller scale, my symptoms can be worse before important events or dates – I used to worry about getting sick before or on the day of trips/exams (etc) and I also find I worry about becoming ill at work, so I get warier of certain foods (e.g. not eating a lot of dairy as large amounts can make me ill) and food safety.

How do you manage living with OCD? Have you explored psychological treatment, support groups or anxiety management techniques?

I’ve tried a lot of things over the years, from meditation and yoga (fun and relaxing, but not specifically helpful for my OCD) to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Exposure and Response Prevention. CBT and ERP are considered ‘gold-standard’ treatments, and I’ve been able to manage my OCD really well (with the help of a therapist) using them, but it’s a lot of homework – there’s no easy fix, but it’s worth it. I had tried a support group in the past, which helped me to feel less alone, and there was a student-run support group at my uni that was absolutely invaluable during that first year, but I found one-on-one treatment more effective when I could access it. In terms of everyday stuff, I’ve tried to push myself outside of my comfort zone by getting a job, but I’ve also found video games, books, writing and general fandom culture to be a really helpful distraction and form of stress relief.

Getting my job was something I tried to just do, rather than overthinking it and avoiding it like the OCD would want – it was a lot to adjust to, but I was fortunate enough to be in a place where I could handle it and it provided great opportunities and distractions. It’s also really nice to have friends and family that try their best to understand my OCD without enabling it or ‘feeding’ it, but on balance, there are lots of people that don’t know, especially at work, and that can be hard.

Whilst there are some external, physical signs & symptoms of OCD, it can also be an invisible mental illness. Can you talk to us about the emotional struggle of living with OCD and how some compulsions are not always quite so obvious?

I’m fortunate that my OCD began in a way that was externally visible and pretty stereotypical, but it’s not always been like that. One of the main emotional things I’ve struggled with over the years is that feeling of being a ‘freak’ or a ‘bad person’ – it can be hard to explain obsessions and compulsions, and sometimes the thoughts can be so horrifying that you worry about admitting them in case you’re treated like a criminal or a ‘crazy person’. Of course, these are thoughts and images specifically created by the OCD to get a reaction from you (like a bully) – they’re ‘egodystonic’ which means they go against your values, and attack the things that are important to you such as your friends, family, health and reputation. It would have taken me a lot longer to find help if my OCD only consisted of those thoughts and images, as this isn’t something many people associate with the disorder due to the ‘clean and organised’ stereotype. People with OCD might worry that they’ll cause physical or emotional harm, or that they’re a bad person, due to thoughts that go against their morals/religions – I worry sometimes that I’ve said something awful to a friend or stranger, even though it’s something I would never do.

Some days it’s difficult to accept that I have OCD and that it’s something that’ll be a part of me forever – however, I know that with a bit of work I can (and do) manage it, so it’s not all doom and gloom! It also feels rarer than, say, depression or anxiety, so sometimes it feels a bit harder to find people I can relate to. That being said, one of my best friends was recently diagnosed with OCD, so it’s good to know that we’ll be able to support each other through it.

Many people use the phrase “I’m a bit OCD” to describe themselves but there’s an acute difference between, say, liking an organised desk and having OCD. What common misconceptions or assumptions do you find particularly frustrating?

The “I’m/you’re a bit OCD” thing really annoys me, as it trivialises the condition and stops people that are being seriously harmed by the disorder from seeking help. I’ve seen it thrown around as an insult on pages meant to be for cleaning tips, and at my first job back in college I was told “don’t be OCD about this task”…that was fun to hear as someone coming to terms with actually having OCD! Hearing it constantly referred to in an insulting or negative light can really add to the feelings of isolation and self-loathing, those feelings of being ‘a freak’.

The ‘clean and organised’ stereotype can also do a lot of harm, as it means people suffering with other types of OCD such as harm OCD or Pure O don’t even associate their symptoms with the disorder. Sometimes it’s a little awkward for me to admit to the germaphobic aspect of my OCD as it can fuel the stereotype, but I can tell you now that my room is not nearly as clean or organised as you might expect! Indeed, even with the most stereotypical form of OCD, I didn’t realise I had it, so anything that perpetuates misconceptions can be really harmful.

The lack of understanding, even amongst professionals, can be particularly isolating. What changes would you like to see to ensure those living with OCD are seen, understood and supported?

I think having more awareness of how OCD can be for real people is important (I’m really happy to see Zoella looking into this, and happy to help out!). There are a lot of social media accounts run by trained therapists and people with OCD that are really informative as well which helps (though of course, you have to be careful about misinformation). Charities like Mind and OCD Action are really useful too, as they can provide information and support for the sufferer and also friends/family, and it’s quite easy to access and understand. Depictions of OCD in TV/film that are realistic and not treated as a joke can also be helpful, and can give people characters to look up to (similarly, celebs being honest about their experiences of the disorder can be positive too). It’s a big ask, but I’d love to see the end of “I’m/you’re a bit OCD” – it’s not helpful and it really gets on my nerves, even if the person means well!

I also think that an awareness of OCD would be helpful at the college/university level, and in the NHS – my main barrier to help was that I got kind of… funnelled through the university and NHS systems in a way that pointed me to the wrong kind of treatment initially (one that was more general, made to deal with general uni stresses and anxieties), when I should have been on a more specific form of treatment that actually worked really well when I got to it! One of the most helpful things during that difficult first year was simply feeling seen and cared for by the student welfare team at my uni – they made sure I made and went to appointments, and helped me to feel less alone. Indeed, I was able to poke fun at a shared OCD experience with one of them, a fellow sufferer, because we could connect and understand how truly strange OCD can be.

Violet’s Story

How long have you had OCD and what was the road to diagnosis like for you?

I’ve officially had OCD for nearly 4 years, however, I personally think I have had it for around 5/6. The road to diagnosis for me was difficult, I went through CAMHS which did take a while (as most people know) but 2020 was the year I finally got to the top of the list and started to receive therapy.

Symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) vary from person to person, what does OCD look like for you and how does it affect your day-to-day life?

For me, my OCD was mainly Reassurance, Germ and Ritual OCD. This means I was washing my hands habitually almost every hour. After using the toilet I’d spent at least 5 minutes at the sink making SURE they are clean. From this, my OCD stemmed to ritual OCD in which where I would have to do something a certain amount of times, this was things from light switches to locking the doors. This is where the Reassurance OCD came in and I would stay up after everyone else and spend at least 20 minutes a night making sure all doors are locked and switches are off, this was all reassuring me that my family would be safe which was a big part of my OCD.

A lot of my OCD was family-based. My main trigger would be dripping taps, this is because I didn’t want to waste any money, and later figured that I’d been told as a child that “every drip is worth a penny, so make sure the tap is OFF”, which every child gets told, to make sure they turn off the tap as it wastes water! However in my head, the OCD took this information and twisted it, so I would make sure the tap is definitely off because I didn’t want my mum (who is a single parent and works so hard for her children) to waste money on a drippy tap. Additionally, I also had intrusive thoughts, this came in the forms of “if I don’t do this then something bad will happen”.

Are there certain triggers for your obsessions or compulsions?

I suffer from depression as well, so a low mood is a huge trigger. Right now there are very few triggers for me. One big one was obviously COVID, having had OCD before COVID, when the virus came around my OCD was probably at its peak and the fact a deadly virus was going around didn’t help! My main trigger was the dripping tap. Any time I would see a tap drip, I’d have to keep checking it’s off, keep touching it so it stays off.

Are there certain times or situations when your symptoms worsen?

When around lots of people, being in places I don’t know are clean. Fatigue and tiredness.

How do you manage living with OCD? Have you explored psychological treatment, support groups or anxiety management techniques?

I’ve received CBT via CAMHS. The therapy lasted around 6 months. Through the therapy I was taught so many techniques, one of the ones I still use is ERP. ERP is Exposure Response Prevention. Although it may seem weird, one of my targets was to simply sit in front of the sink and watch the tap drip. By doing this once and seeing after that in fact nothing bad did happen, I began to see things a lot differently!

Whilst there are some external, physical signs & symptoms of OCD, it can also be an invisible mental illness. Can you talk to us about the emotional struggle of living with OCD and how some compulsions are not always quite so obvious?

For me personally, my OCD had a huge impact on my emotions and general mental health. I’d hear a lot of the time people saying at school and college “oh I’m so OCD” and “omg you’re triggering my OCD” and I’d think to myself how little they actually know, I’d think how they have no idea that I was counting how many people touched the door handle, and how I would be about to ask to go to the toilet just to wash my hands again but most of all, how I was about to go home and the compulsions would start all over again and it would mean another restless night. It became difficult as well to tell some of my friends, I’d tell them that I have been diagnosed with OCD and I distinctly remember one moment, where I felt so insignificant and silly for telling them, a friend said “oh well yeah everyone’s a bit OCD”. I remember after she said that I smiled and agreed and went home later and cried a lot.

Many people use the phrase “I’m a bit OCD” to describe themselves but there’s an acute difference between, say, liking an organised desk and having OCD. What common misconceptions or assumptions do you find particularly frustrating?

This leads on nicely from what I was just saying! For me a huge misconception is people thinking and assuming that OCD is just being super clean and organised. It really is not. Of course for some, part of their OCD is being really organised (me included) but anyone can be organised. A good way I like to explain it is that, anyone can organise their pens in colour order, but those with OCD may do this over and over and over until they feel satisfied.

The lack of understanding, even amongst professionals, can be particularly isolating. What changes would you like to see to ensure those living with OCD are seen, understood and supported?

For me, I’d like to see a bigger focus on the understanding of the indirect impact that OCD can have on an individual and their loved ones. For example, my OCD at one point meant that my mum struggled to sleep most nights as she was awake making sure I wasn’t washing my hands for too long, or wasn’t checking the doors too much.

Personally, I think OCD is one of the few disorders that people do not know enough about. I personally believe there is definitely a lack of professionals who know what and how to help OCD. Additionally, something I really think is necessary is for mental health to be taught in schools, for children and young people to learn what different mental health conditions mean and how they can identify and help them.

If you’re struggling with OCD, you can get help here at ocduk.org  or ocdaction.org.uk

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7. Com Wand Vibrator

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Featuring Dame’s most powerful motor yet, exquisite broad rumbles for clit and vulva coverage (5 intensity levels, 5 pattern modes) and a flexible neck that contours to your body, the Com is a charming choice for newbies and experienced pleasure seekers alike. Easy to hold and whisper-quiet, external vibrations no longer have to cost you the use of your hand for the next 3-5 working days. Bye-bye, Repetitive Strain Injury. Bye-bye. 

8. Naked Grapefruit First Base

Naked Grapefruit | £25.99 | Shop it here

This female-run brand is a breath of fresh air in a male-dominated industry – any brand with the tagline, ‘We Cum In Peace, So Should You’ has our immediate backing. If you’re currently on a Google journey for a sex toy that’s right for you but feel slightly overwhelmed at the sheer volume of choice (and/or the shape of some of this innovative tech), First Base will make the experience infinitely less intimidating. Sometimes a simple 7 setting bullet vibrator is all you need to get to know yourself! We can’t wait to see what pleasure products they bless our anatomy with next. 

9. Satisfyer Top Secret Wearable Vibrator 

Satisfyer | £44.95 | Shop it here

The wearable bit piqued your interest, right? If sex toy trends exist, then let it be known that wearableZ are in this season. Thanks to the flat base and curved voluminous shaft on this one, it can be worn on the go for leg-buckling vibrations wherever you are. Have some fun with your lover by letting them take over the control systems via the Satisfyer app, or, if making a splash is more your vibe, take your pleasure power trip into the water. Waterproof and wearable? 2022 is already looking up. 

10. Duo Flicker Clit Stim

Ann Summers | £26.60 | Shop it here

The feminine urge to own 17 vibrators! The Duo Flicker Clit Stim bookends the head of your clitoris with the unique duo stimulating shape creating twice the pleasure. Whether you see a mermaid tale, a dolphin’s mouth or the leaves of a tulip is your call entirely. 

If you prefer, you can place it flat against the clitoris instead or either side, and reap the rewards of the flicking action. It’ll be the best £38 you’ll ever spend. 

11. Flip Rechargeable Wand Vibrator

Romp | £39.99 | Shop it here

If you prefer your pleasure to be wire-free and love how a wand feels this ROMP rechargeable vibrator is right up your erm, ally. Petite enough to go with you wherever and very reasonably priced this is the perfect toy for those looking to dip their toe into the waters of the wands.

12. The Ribbed One

Kandid | £59 | Shop it here

A ribbed G-Spot Vibrator? We’re all ears. Made with ribbed body-safe silicone for your pleasure and featuring a curved tip and ultra flexible external rabbit ears, the Wild One delivers 

seriously satisfying dual stimulation. G spot rumbles and clit stim, get you a toy that does both!

13. Hot Lover 

Satisfyer | £53.95 | Shop it here

They had us at ‘sensual warming function’. The Hot Lover combines clitoris and G spot stimulation with a heated shaft (up to 39 degrees) to emulate penetrative sex and a body-like expereince like no other. That’s one way to keep warm this winter. 

14. Date Night Set 

We Vibe | £179 | Shop it here

Because traipsing to a restaurant or ordering Deliveroo for date night gets boring real quick: consider this couple’s vibrator set from We Vibe, featuring their Pivot vibrating cock ring and Nova 2 rabbit vibrator. Orgasm for two, was it? 

*All products on this page have been selected by our editorial team however some are ad-affiliate links.

Ahh January. The mulled wine bottles are piled high in the recycling bin, the tequila suddenly looks far less appealing, and your body is screaming for a green juice, stat! And whilst it can feel like a total new year cliche to add “my body is a temple” to your morning affirmations, sometimes as the calendar sheet is turned, practising healthier boundaries around alcohol consumption can feel somewhat intuitive.

Enter: Dry January. It might sound pretty unappealing when the thought of a 6pm glass of red can help manage the January scaries, but hear us out, the benefits of cutting the Chardonnay for just 31 days may be enough for you to reach for the mocktail menu for good.

How does alcohol impact the body?

An Aperol Spritz watching the sunset in the warmer months and a delicious glass of Baileys sat fireside with a book is the stuff dreams are made of, but did you know that whilst you don’t necessarily feel the impact of alcohol from one drink, the effects on your mind and body happen from the first sip. Positive sensations such as a sense of giddiness and relaxation happen first, lowering stress levels and even creating feelings of euphoria as our inhibitions are lowered. Sounds dreamy right?

Sadly the positives are somewhat outweighed by potential negatives here, as whilst an increase in confidence may seem fun when the warmth of Prosecco first hits, the dangers of a decreased perception of danger, increase in impulsive behaviour, and everything from loss of coordination, nausea, headaches, trouble focusing, gaps in memory, slurred speech and changes in perception too have the potential to be a recipe for disaster. Chuck in some dehydration and potential loss of consciousness if you really overdo it and suddenly that friendly 5pm tipple seems a little less appealing. 

But what’s the science behind such drastic changes occurring from substances we can buy so easily along with our avocados and Crunchy Nut in the local supermarket? Say hello to: Gamma-Aminobutyric Acid, often known as GABA. An important neurotransmitter involved in inhibitory function, this integral part of brain processing is thrown out of whack with alcohol in tow and leads to reduced coordination, overall slower motor abilities, and all of the above short term but potentially dangerous side effects.

There is ample evidence demonstrating that long-term high volume drinking reduces life expectancy, increases the risk of cancers, metabolic diseases such as diabetes, liver, heart and cognitive problems to name a few, and so permanently avoiding alcohol can bring a whole wealth of benefits.”

Currently struggling with dry January? Us too. Here’s what happens when you ditch the booze…

When detoxing from anything, be it fast food, alcohol or substance use in general, the first few days are usually the hardest as your body adapts to life without this addition to your system. Following this, and once the grogginess of any initial hangover has subsided, you should start to feel more refreshed in general, but know it can actually take up to 72 hours before you mentally and physically feel back to normal after drinking! Alcohol therapists Lisa and Alex from Bee Sober note that day 5-7 is when we can expect to wake up with more energy, as although alcohol can send us to sleep easier, we actually miss out on “the all-important Rapid Eye movement (aka REM) which should be around 6-7 cycles but the effects of alcohol mean this is limited to one or two. After two weeks you will notice a huge improvement in overall sleep pattern as your body becomes more regulated.”

“After two weeks you will also likely see a drop in body weight, eye bags reduced and far less overall bloating around the stomach area”- in part because alcohol can impact our appetite and increase the hormones that make us hungry, often leading to bingeing on foods that are typically unhealthier. 

Next up: blood pressure. “After 3 weeks blood pressure will reduce, as drinking every day or binge drinking can cause our blood pressure to rise and can be really dangerous, and lowering this can help with any long term health problems.” 

The benefits are endless, and it doesn’t just occur physically too, as we’re reminded by Dr Damani. With your newfound mental clarity, you may notice your relationships, productivity, and emotional wellbeing improve too, as life feels a little lighter and your motivation across all that you do increases. Because whilst hangovers and a little sluggish start to the morning don’t feel like the end of the world, there’s growing evidence that ditching alcohol can lead to some seriously dramatic long term positives too- “the science of sleep, our circadian rhythm and hydration is becoming more renowned in its impact on delaying dementia, reducing the risk of acute heart problems and diabetes.” Seriously life-changing stuff!

As wonderful as these health benefits sound both mentally and physically, dropping the booze- be it for Dry Jan or for good- after living a life with alcohol at the centre of your social life is no mean feat! Breaking habits takes work, and changing your routine, lifestyle and the way you relax and potentially connect with friends is never going to be a walk in the park. But if you fancy setting yourself a goal that challenges your norm and improves your health this January, perhaps ditching the daiquiris and Desperados is for you. 

I’ll get one of each please

Cutting back on alcohol doesn’t mean you’re restricted to the world of tap water alone, no no! Whether you’re hibernating at home this winter and fancy spicing up a Friday night, or instead are intrigued by the mocktails at your go-to weekend haunt, keep reading for the ultimate sober drink options that are anything but dry:  

Virgin mojito

Recipe Source: BBC Good Food

Passionfruit Martini Mocktail

Recipe Source: Olive Magazine

Mango Mule

Recipe Source: Small City Big Personality

Virgin Mary

Recipe Source: Good to

Sweet Sunrise

Recipe Source: Mindful Mocktail

Cinderella 

Recipe Source: Cocktail Mocktail

Popping pain relief to manage physical ailments, no biggy, but taking medication to make your mind feel better, thus keeping you (drum roll please) *alive* … stigma has entered the chat. 

Despite recent strides in attitudes towards mental health, taking antidepressants to treat mental health problems is still widely misunderstood. This can result in devastating consequences, not only by perpetuating shame but by preventing people from seeking much-needed support or leading them to believe they’re ‘not sick enough’ to get help. 

We spoke to GP, Member of the Royal College of General Practitioners and a Member of the British Association of Lifestyle Medicine, Jack Ogden, and NHS Mental Health Nurse, Andy Halligan, supporting the We Are The NHS campaign, to dispel the myths about antidepressants. 

From when you should consider taking them to the potential side effects to be aware of and most importantly the benefits of a life-saving treatment that has proven effective for millions, we hope this article empowers you to take your meds and be kind to yourself, whatever form your self-care takes this year. 

When would antidepressants be the right course of medication for someone? Are they only suitable for someone with depression, for example?

J: Antidepressants are just one of the options that are available for people with depression, however, they are not by any means the only option for people who are feeling that they are depressed or have a low mood. Other interventions which are known to be beneficial include counselling such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or CBT, physical exercise which causes the release of endorphins, stress management and improvement of sleep with techniques which are sometimes called sleep hygiene. Using a combination of antidepressant tablets with these other interventions is by far the best approach to managing low mood. Generally, I would suggest trying antidepressant tablets if some of these other techniques have not worked or if the depression is very severe.

A: Antidepressants are primarily used to treat clinical depression but they can also be used to help treat other mental health conditions such as Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Bulimia and different panic disorders 

However, there isn’t one rule that fits all in relation to who should commence on antidepressant medication. If you are struggling, it is important to talk to a professional whether that’s your GP, clinical psychologist or psychiatrist about your individual situation. Your doctor might suggest that you try antidepressants if you have already tried lifestyle changes or therapies and they haven’t worked. 

It may be that you are already practicing many of your known coping mechanisms which help keep your anxiety and depression under control. For some people this may include exercising, improved sleep hygiene, eating well, making time for yourself and stress-reducing activities but if you continue to feel low and your symptoms are interfering with your ability to take care of yourself or ability to complete basic daily tasks such getting up in the morning or getting through the day; then this is when your doctor may suggest commenting on an antidepressant. 

There are different types of antidepressants, could you give an overview of the different types available and the differences between them. How to know which one will suit you best?

J: There are several different types of antidepressants available, by far the most common type is a group of antidepressants called Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors or SSRIs, these include medications such as Prozac, which is also known as Fluoxetine and others such as Sertraline and Citalopram. SSRIs are an excellent starting point for people with depression. Different antidepressants work on different receptors in the brain, by either blocking them or causing them to release more neurotransmitters, the subtle differences between antidepressants cause slightly different effects and can be used when patients suffer from different symptoms of depression or anxiety. For example, a medication called Mirtazapine can be helpful in patients with depression or anxiety who struggle to sleep. Occasionally, we can combine antidepressants so that the benefits from each different antidepressant can be felt.

A: Just as not every therapist matches with every person, not every antidepressant will work for every person who tries them. It might require trial and error to find the right antidepressant but it is important to keep in mind that even if you may need to change medications this doesn’t mean things aren’t treatable. Anxiety and depression are highly treatable. It just requires patience and working with your GP or mental health team. 

There are many types of antidepressant medications available to treat depression, including:

• Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) Doctors often start by prescribing an SSRI. These medications generally cause fewer side effects and are less likely to cause problems at higher therapeutic doses than other types of antidepressants are. Common examples of SSRI medications include Sertraline, Citalopram and Fluoxetine. 

• Serotonin and norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs). Examples of SNRI medications include Duloxetine and Venlafaxine. 

• There are also Atypical antidepressants. These medications don’t fit neatly into any of the other antidepressant categories. More commonly prescribed antidepressants in this category include Mirtazapine and Bupropion. Bupropion is one of the few antidepressants not frequently associated with sexual side effects. 

• There are also Tricyclic antidepressants such as Amitriptyline that tend to cause more side effects than the newer antidepressants. So tricyclic antidepressants generally aren’t prescribed unless you’ve tried other antidepressants first without improvement. 

If the depression does not respond to antidepressants alone, other treatments such as CBT may also be used to help achieve better results. Your doctor may even recommend combining two antidepressants, or other medications may be added to an antidepressant to enhance antidepressant effects. 

Everyone responds to medication differently but how long does it usually take for someone to feel the full effects of antidepressants?

J: With SSRI’s I normally tell patients that it can take around 6 weeks to see if it is beneficial, although it can be shorter depending on the patient and also on the antidepressant type. As a general rule, it does take at least a couple of weeks to see any benefits.

A: When you start taking an antidepressant, you probably won’t feel better right away. It takes around 4-6 weeks for the medication to build up in your body, but you may feel some benefits sooner than this, such as improved sleep. Speak to your doctor if you don’t feel any benefit after taking an antidepressant regularly for two to four weeks, or if you feel worse. It’s possible that your doctor will increase your dose gradually or may recommend a different antidepressant that suits you better. 

Is there an ideal time period to be on antidepressants, or can you take them on a long term basis, too?

J: There are no hard and fast rules around how long patients should take antidepressants. If the patient has suffered from depression for a long time, it may be appropriate for them to take antidepressants for many months or even years; and indeed some patients take them for many years. If someone has developed depression within a relatively recent timeframe, say, months, it might be sensible to try antidepressants for a shorter period, for example, 3 months. The approach taken needs to be individualised to the patient’s personal circumstances.

A: There is no ideal time to be on an antidepressant as each individual is different. For some, antidepressants act as a life vest that keeps us afloat through the toughest times. Others may need to take them for longer periods. Generally, doctors will recommend that a person stays on their antidepressant medication for around six to nine months before considering taking them off them.  

It is important to remember as well that starting on an antidepressant doesn’t mean you’ll be on it forever. Some people need medication indefinitely, but many do not. Life circumstances change and progress through other avenues such as therapy can make a big difference too. 

Some people might have bouts of low mood for a few weeks, are antidepressants ever a quick fix solution?

J: I think it is really important to remember that having episodes of low mood for a few weeks is really common in this stressful world in which we live. Lifestyle changes and some of the non-medicine approaches I have already mentioned are perfectly suited to shorter episodes of low mood or anxiety. While antidepressants are probably better suited to more severe and longer-lasting episodes of depression or anxiety.

A: Everyone feels low or down from time to time. It does not always mean something is wrong. Feeling low is common after distressing events or major life changes, but sometimes periods of low mood happen for no obvious reason. You may feel tired, lacking confidence, frustrated, angry or worried. But low mood will often pass after a couple of days or weeks. If you’re still feeling down or no longer getting pleasure from the things that you once did and if this lasts for several weeks, you may be experiencing depression. Only then antidepressants would be recommended. It’s not a quick fix solution. 

What side effects should those taking antidepressants be aware of?  

J: As with any medication, antidepressants can have unwanted side effects, these side effects are often much more acutely felt when you first start taking them. We often see side effects such as dizziness, a short term increase in anxiety, headaches, dizziness abdominal discomfort, a low sex drive and tiredness. It is always sensible to discuss these with the doctor when you first get prescribed them and read the literature in the box when you receive the prescription. Reassuringly, most of these unwanted side effects often subside after a couple of weeks of taking the medications.

A: Common side effects can include feeling drowsy, sick, dizzy, agitated, experiencing a loss of sex drive and vivid or distressing dreams. However, side effects from antidepressants generally improve with time. In addition, you’ll usually see your doctor every few weeks when you first commence on antidepressants to discuss how well the medication is working. You can also contact your doctor at any point if you experience any particularly troublesome or persistent side effects.  In general SSRIs are better tolerated than most other types of antidepressants. The majority of people will only experience a few mild side effects when taking them. 

What should you do if these side effects become difficult to manage? 

J: If the side effects are too intense or not tolerable for the patient it may be sensible to reduce the dose slightly until your body adapts to the new medications. In some cases, a different type or class of antidepressant should be tried.

A: If you experience any side effects, you should contact your doctor immediately for further advice and do not stop taking them ‘cold turkey’ as this may lead to further distress such as withdrawal symptoms. 

In rare cases, some people experience suicidal thoughts and a desire to self-harm when they first take antidepressants. Young people under 25 seem particularly at risk. If you experience any such symptoms, you should contact your GP or go to A&E immediately.

Is there anything you should avoid if you’re taking antidepressants? 

J: If you suffer from any side effects which may affect driving, such as dizziness or lethargy it is important not to drive until you feel safe to do so.

A: If you’re taking antidepressants, you should be wary of drinking alcohol as well as illegal substances such as cannabis, cocaine etc. As alcohol is a depressant, drinking alcohol can make your symptoms worse. As with alcohol, certain drugs and medication can make symptoms of depression or other mental health conditions worse. Caffeine and tobacco should also be avoided in some cases. Some antidepressants can also cause dizziness, drowsiness and blurred vision, particularly when you first start taking them. So if you experience any of these problems, you should not drive or use machinery. 

Alcohol is a major cause of depression and should always be reduced if one wants to improve their depression, as it can counteract the benefits of an antidepressant. Another important consideration with regards to alcohol is that it can affect sleep quality which is directly related to mood and recovery from depression.

There is increasing evidence that eating a healthy diet, which has plenty of fibre and includes a large proportion of fruit and vegetables, can improve the gut microbial biodiversity, this is called the gut microbiome. The gut microbiome has recently been proven to link directly to the brain through the nervous system and can have a major impact on a patient’s sense of wellbeing and also their mood.

For anyone who wants to try coming off their meds, how do they go about doing that safely and with support?

 J: The key to stopping antidepressants is to do it in a slow and controlled manner with the support of your doctor and people close to you. Often it can take a couple of months to stop antidepressants properly but again this depends on the patient. While antidepressants are not in themselves addictive they can cause withdrawal symptoms when you stop taking them. Symptoms of withdrawing too quickly include anxiety, insomnia, headache and dizziness. Occasionally, people report electric shock type sensations. However, this should not put people off taking them or stopping, as these symptoms can be mitigated by reducing the dose slowly for a couple of months.

A: It’s important that you do not stop taking antidepressants suddenly. Many people find that they become unwell when they stop taking medication suddenly ‘going cold turkey’. So, please discuss this with your doctor before you make any decisions. When you agree that it is time to stop, your doctor can help put together a withdrawal plan and advise on how to come off your medication in a controlled and safe manner. 

A reduction or withdrawal plan must be flexible and tailored to you. It should allow you to reduce the dose at a rate that you find comfortable – as slowly as you need to avoid any withdrawal symptoms. 

Any dose of antidepressants should be reduced slowly, normally over 4 weeks, but sometimes longer. It’s not possible to tell who will be affected, so it’s always advised that you slowly reduce your medication over a period of time to give your mind and your body time to adjust to being without it. 

What are the key benefits of taking antidepressants?

J: Antidepressants have a key place in the management of depression and anxiety, they can help lift people out of the dark place that is depression. But it is vital to use them as part of a mix of different interventions such as an improved diet, counselling and CBT, exercise, sleep improvements, and stress management.

A: Although antidepressants may not cure depression, they can reduce symptoms. Taking antidepressants may help to lift your mood and improve your sleep pattern. This can help you feel more able to do things that you may not feel possible while you’re depressed. This can include engaging in other types of support such as therapy that are beneficial for your mental health. If you have a form of anxiety or phobia, an antidepressant could help you feel calmer and more able to deal with other problems. Antidepressants can also improve your ability to concentrate and reduce the feeling of restlessness or suicidal ideation.  

Mental Health Ambassador, Dr Alex George, recently started the campaign #PostYourPill to encourage people to be proud of taking control of their mental health and to combat medication stigma. Why do you think there’s still such shame and judgement around taking medication for your mental wellbeing?

J: Unfortunately, there is still a stigma around mental health, I think this is partly historic and partly because people misunderstand the causes of mental illness. It might be surprising to hear that 1 in 4 people experience a mental health problem of some kind each year and the majority of people will suffer at some point in their life. It really is like any other physical problem and is nothing to be ashamed of. I am reassured by campaigns such as #PostYourPill and I really think society’s attitudes are changing.

A: Society is still very judgmental, older generations especially believe that mental illness is a sign of weakness or something to be scared of. Mental illness is not really understood by many. Even if celebrities are starting to talk about it more in the media, people in the real world need everyday people to talk about their issues; in work, in the pub, with family, something a bit more genuine. Challenging this stigma is very hard to overcome and it won’t happen overnight but I believe with the right patience, empathy and education, positive changes are possible. We may not quite be there yet but I’m confident we’re (slowly) moving in the right direction. 

What changes would you like to see happen to destigmatize the attitude towards seeking help?

J: I think we need to see actions from those in government to show that they care by improving funding for mental health services in the UK, it is catastrophically underfunded. I would hope by funding these services better society as a whole will realise just how common these problems are and it will change the views of people who have no experience of them. On a personal level, I think that if everyone as individuals took a bit of time to go out of their way and show people who are struggling that they care, this will really go a long way to changing attitudes. 

A: Communities and the media should focus more on the positive. Empowering those struggling instead of shaming them. The media and society as a whole needs to put more emphasis on promoting education and actively sharing practical support at every level and opportunity, whilst also challenging prejudices. Not only will this break down barriers but it will improve the quality of life for those suffering which will inevitably lead to better outcomes for our wider society. De-stigmatising mental illness from an early age in schools would also increase the likelihood of those suffering and maybe fearful, to seek the help they need. Improving knowledge, especially from an early age will also help to dismiss all those old-age myths and fears some people still hold. In addition, if every one of us is a bit more honest and leads by example to actively challenge false beliefs, strives to be anti-oppressive in everything we do and towards everyone we meet, positive change is possible. Only then, we can challenge the stigma within our society. 

One thing you’d like everyone to know about taking antidepressants…

J: There is a common misconception that antidepressants are addictive and I am pleased to say they are not, however, they should be started with care and at the right time. They must be part of a programme of changes which include lifestyle changes and counselling.

A: If you are struggling, there is no shame whatsoever in taking any form of medication, you just need to do what is right for you to get you through those difficult times and remember to be more kind to yourself.

Here’s to making 2022 a year of healing without shame. 

Feeling the January scaries in full force? We get it. With dreary AF weather, approx 2 minutes of sunlight a day, a severe lack of cheese boards and early morning alarms once more, it’s safe to say the new year isn’t always as inspiring as the vision boards and inspirational quotes make out. If you’re feeling less than motivated this January, know that it’s okay to ease yourself into 2022 with bubble baths and pasta bakes aplenty, and remember hibernating and cosy self care might be just what you need to see yourself through the next 31 days. If you need another means to up those endorphins, may we also suggest some humble retail therapy. Because who doesn’t love a little ‘to me, from me’ gift, even after Christmas has passed…

From deliciously glowy Hourglass highlighter palettes to luxurious Sleeper pyjamas, House of Sunny knitwear to the humble Shark vacuum, there are deals hotter than a summer in the Maldives popping off left right and centre this January to see you through the dreariest month of the year. 

Expect to see your DPD driver all the more after checking out these bargains…

Beauty

Electronics

Fashion

Homeware

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After a slightly weird end to 2021, you’ll be glad to hear your 2022 calendars are set to be well-stocked with normality in the shape of binge-worthy tv series, festivals, sporting events, concerts and Royal appointments. 

From the most anticipated shows (Stranger Things season 4 – the wait is finally over!) and the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee, here’s a look at the headline acts and events making 2022 a rather poppin’ 12 months indeed. Bring the action… 

Events & Music 

The Queen’s Platinum Jubilee – June 2 – June 5 

Did someone say an extra bank holiday? 2022 is already looking up! The nation will come together for a four-day weekend to celebrate Her Majesty the Queen’s 70 years on the throne. The usual spring Bank Holiday in May will be moved to Thursday, June 2 and an additional BH will be added on Friday 3 June to create the four-day weekend of national celebrations. Long live our noble Queenie! Find out more here.

Reading & Leeds Festival – August 28-30 

With Arctic Monkeys, Megan Thee Stallion and Dave as the official headliners of the dual event, and Rage Against The Machine, Little Simz, Bastille, Halsey and Bring Me The Horizon also making the line-up, #RandL22 is set to be *the* place to be this August Bank Holiday. Find out more here.

Glastonbury Festival – June 22-26 

Muddy fields, how we’ve missed you! After two cancellations and a belated 50^th anniversary to celebrate, one thing’s for sure – Glasto ’22 is going to be big. Billie Eilish will be headlining the Pyramid Stage on Friday 24 June, making her the youngest solo performer in the festival’s history. Supremes singer Diana Ross has also been confirmed for the Sunday evening Legends slot, previously played by Dolly Parton in 2014. Find out more here.

Adele BST Hyde Park – July 1 & 2

Oioi *Adele voice* Hyde Park welcomes Her Royal Highness Adele as part of the British Summertime Festival on July 1 and July 2, and she’s in great company with the likes of Elton John, Pearl Jam, Pixies, Duran Duran, Nile Rodgers & Chic all headlining the event, too. Prepare to sing Go Easy On Me at the top of your lungs, Daydreamers! Find out more here.

Olivia Rodrigo UK Tour – From July 2 

Jesus, take the wheel – Olivia Rodrigo will be hitting the road this year with her SOUR tour, with five UK shows across Glasgow, Manchester, Birmingham and London and all we can say is, Good 4 You, 2022. GOOD 4 YOU! Find out more here.

Little Mix – April 9 – May 14

The tour will be the last chance for Little Mixers to see Leigh-Anne, Jade and Perrie live before they take an extended hiatus to focus on other projects. It’s going to be all kinds of Confetti in the eye emotional but no doubt the trio will go out with a bang. Find out more here.

Television

Peaky Blinders Season 6 – early 2022 BBC iPlayer

The gangster series returns for its final season (sniff, sniff) and in *peak* 2022 news, it looks like Tom Hardy is back with the Birmingham bad boys. Be still my beating heart! 

This Is Going to Hurt – TBC BBC iPLayer 

Adam Kay’s best-selling book about his life as a junior doctor is coming to BBC One for an eight-part series, with Ben Whishaw (No Time To Die) starring as Kay. With the author himself at the helm as both the scriptwriter and executive producer, it’s set to be just as hilarious, heartbreaking and brimming with bodily fluids as the medical memoir itself.  

Bridgerton Season 2 – Netflix 

Season 2 might be one dishy Duke down but we’ve every faith it’ll be as watchable as it was when it first graced our screens back in December 2020. Sorry, why does that suddenly seem about 50 years ago?

The Gilded Age – January 24 HBO

Downton Abbey fans, you’ll be happy to hear Juilan Fellowes is back with another costume drama set in New York during the 1880s and naturally, it looks incredible. Well, socialising was nice and everything but looks like the sofa can take it from here. 

Pam & Tommy – Feb 2 Hulu 

‘Based on the true f*cking scandal’ – starring Lily James and Sebastian Stan, the eight episode series follows the whirlwind romance of Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee and *that* viral video. 

Lord of the Rings TV Series – September 2 Amazon

Another take on the fantasy series is coming to the small screen and it’s set to be the most expensive series ever made. Starring Game of Thrones actor, Robert Aramayo as Middle-earth’s new hero, the epic journey will take place in Tolkien’s Second Age era, thousands of years before the events of The Hobbit. Get September 2 in your diaries, people!

Stranger Things – Summer 2022 Netflix 

Clear your summer plans, the long-delayed Stranger Things season 4 is finally on its way. In the sneak peek trailer, called Welcome to California, we hear Eleven (played by Millie Bobby Brown) reading a letter aloud to Mike Wheeler, whilst the footage shows the heroine isn’t exactly having the time of her life in the Sunshine State…

“Today is day 185,” she says. “I think I have finally adapted. I even like school now. I have made lots of friends. Even so, I am ready for spring break, mostly because I get to see you…We will have the best spring break ever.” 

After season 3 ended on quite the explosive cliffhanger, we can’t wait to see what’s next for our favourite Dungeons and Dragons players. 

The Crown, Season 5 – November 2022 Netflix 

The Charles and Diana era continues featuring a brand new line up, with Elizabeth Debicki playing Princess Diana and Imelda Staunton inheriting the role as the show’s new Queen Elizabeth. Cosy winter viewing at its best! 

Wahala – TBC BBC iPlayer

Wahala is tipped to be one of the most talked about books of 2022 (we’re currently reading it for book club and can confirm it’s 10/10), so we can’t wait to see how Nikki May’s modern masterpiece translates on the small screen. 

The drama adapted by Theresa Ikoko, will follow three 30-something Nigerian-British female friends living in London successfully navigating a world that mixes roast dinners with jollof rice. 

Simi, Ronke and Boo have been best friends for years, sharing every aspect of their careers, family lives and relationships with one another. But when the beautiful, charismatic, and super wealthy Isobel infiltrates their friendship group, mounting tensions, unravelling bonds and unearthed secrets have shocking and tragic consequences.

Everything I Know About Love – TBC BBC iPlayer 

Adapted by author Dolly Alderton, the series follows besties Maggie and Birdy as they navigate the ever-changing dynamic of female friendship. Where would we be without BBC iPlayer, ay?

Chloe – TBC BBC iPlayer 

The six part psychological thriller, written by Sex Education’s Alice Seabright, is described as “a mystery about obsession, deceit, identity and grief”. According to the show’s synopsis, it follows the complex female heroine, Becky (Erin Doherty) who still lives at home with her mum and “compares herself to the picture-perfect lives on Instagram, compulsively returning to one account: Chloe’s (Poppy Gilbert).

“Becky obsessively watches her seemingly flawless life through social media. But when Chloe dies suddenly, Becky’s need to find out how and why leads her to assume a new identity and engineer a ‘chance’ meeting with Chloe’s best friend, Livia (Pippa Bennett-Warner), and infiltrate Chloe’s group of close-knit friends.

“Through her alter-ego Sasha, Becky becomes a powerful, transgressive heroine; a popular, well-connected ‘someone’ with a life, and loves that are far more exciting and addictive than the ‘no-one’ she is as Becky. However, the pretence soon obscures and conflates reality, and Becky risks losing herself completely in the game she is playing.”

Conversations with Friends – TBC BBC iPlayer

If previous Sally Rooney book-to-tv adaptations are anything to go by (lest we forget Connell’s chain), we’re surely in for a bingeworthy treat with Conversations with Friends. The 12-part series will closely follow the premise of Rooney’s first coming-of-age novel about two college students and their entanglement with an older married couple in their 30s, Melissa and Nick.  

Sport

Super Bowl LVI – February 3-7

This year, the NFL Super Bowl will be played at the SoFi Stadium in Los Angeles, with a star-studded halftime show featuring Snoop Dogg, Eminem, Dr. Dre, Mary J. Blige and Kendrick Lamar. Worth staying up for! 

Winter Olympics – February 4-20 

It’s time for winter sports action – The 2022 Winter Olympics will be held in China across three zones: Beijing, Yanqing, and Zhangjiakou. There will be a total of 109 medal events across 15 competitions including Alpine Skiing, Biathlon, Bobsled, Cross-Country Skiing, Curling, Figure Skating, Hockey, Luge, Nordic Combined, Short Track, Skeleton, Ski Jumping, Snowboarding and Speed Skating. 

Six Nations – Feb 5 – March 19 

One of the major sporting tournaments in the ’22 international Rugby Union calendar, with England, Scotland, Wales, Ireland and Italy all going head-to-head in the competition. 

This year, Ireland and Wales will kick things off in Dublin on Saturday 5^th February, with five weeks of exciting fixtures to follow. 

Round 1: Saturday, Feb 5 Ireland vs Wales 2.15pm, Scotland vs England 4.45pm, Sunday, Feb 6 France vs Italy 3pm

Round 2: Saturday, February 12 Wales v Scotland 2.15pm, France v Ireland 4.45pm, Sunday, February 13 Italy v England 3pm

Round 3: Saturday, February 26 Scotland v France 2.15pm, England v Wales 4.45pm, Sunday, February 27 Ireland v Italy 3pm

Round 4: Friday, March 11 Wales v France 8pm, Saturday, March 12 Italy v Scotland 2.15pm, England v Ireland 4.45pm

Round 5: Saturday, March 19 Wales v Italy 2.15pm, Ireland v Scotland 4.45pm, France v England 8pm

Formula One – March 20 – November 20 

Will Lewis Hamilton return to the grid in 2022 to reclaim the world crown from Max Verstappen? Will Verstappen win his second championship? Or will another new champion come out on top? After last year’s controversial finale, one thing’s for sure, it’s going to be one hell of a season!

Wimbledon – June 27 – July 10 

Tennis fans, rejoice! There’s plenty to look forward to this year with Wimbledon becoming a 14-day tournament for the first time, thanks to the introduction of play on Middle Sunday. 

After she took the tennis world by storm after her US Open win in August 2021 and won Sports Personality of the Year in December, there’s every chance Emma Raducanu will deliver at Wimbledon 2022, and with the likes of the legendary Rafael Nadal and Novak Djokovic battling it out for the most Slams in history, we’re likely to be positively glued to our screens. 

UEFA Women’s Euro – July 6 – July 31

The Lionesses will face Austria in the first game at Old Trafford on July 6, then they’ll be playing Norway at Brighton’s Amex Stadium before heading along the coast to St Mary’s, Southampton to play Northern Ireland. We’re rooting for them! 

The World Athletics Championships 15 – 24 July 

The World Athletics Championships will make history as they arrive in the United States for the very first time. Over the course of 10 days, this extraordinary showcase will bring the world together to celebrate diversity, human potential, and athletic achievement, with 2,000 athletes taking part. 

The Masters – 4th April to 10th April

The question on all our lips when it comes to golf is, will Tiger make it to Augusta to fight it out for his 6th green jacket? Having recently played with his son Charlie at the PNC Championship, it’s looking ever more likely. But there will be plenty of other players there looking to spoil the comeback (if it does happen) and take the first Major of the golfing season?

FIFA World Cup – 21 November – 18 December

For the first time in the competition’s history, the World Cup will be held in the Middle East in the State of Qatar – the first Arab country to ever host the tournament. Taking place every four years, the FIFA Men’s World Cup sees 32 nations compete for the title of world champions. The draw for the group stage will take place on April 1, so stay tuned. Here’s hoping the Three Lions can emulate their Euros success! 

Love ‘em or hate ‘em, as a new calendar page is turned and January is upon us once more, the age-old question of which New Year Resolutions you plan to set for the optimistic year ahead is suddenly the topic of small talk everywhere. And whilst it may be cliche to use the new year as motivation for change, there is something about fresh starts that prompts a renewed enthusiasm for life and the possibility for the impossible (i.e. actually going to the spin class you booked last week) to really come true.

So, whether this year you’re manifesting big Virgo energy into a list of dedicated resolutions, or simply want to change your “espresso martinis solve everything” mindset, keep reading for 50 unique New Year’s Resolutions that might actually improve your life.

• Promise yourself you’ll stop buying spinach only for it to go soggy in your salad drawer after using your selective eyesight skills to look past it every time you open the fridge.
• Give out one compliment a day because that girl in the Jakke coat needs to know how 11/10 she looks. Gorgeous gorgeous girls hype up other gorgeous gorgeous girls.
• Read a book a month. But don’t be mad if you don’t touch another novel after March 2022 because two years on from the start of the pandemic life still feels like a dystopian work of fiction.
• Set the boundaries your therapist has been kindly encouraging you to put in place for the past 5 years. “Thou shall not text back my toxic ex”.
• Start reformer pilates and transform your life whilst also bankrupting yourself in the process.
• Try meatless Mondays or veggie weekends because we Stan small changes making big differences.

• Stop doom scrolling before 9am because you’re dedicated to investing in your mental health.
• Whilst also still sending your bestie TikToks at 11pm because #balance.
• Make your bed every morning without fail because it feels like life will naturally fall into place if you do.
• Stop buying overpriced coffee as a ‘treat’ every time you leave the house and actually use the cafetiere you received a mere two weeks ago for Christmas that’s already collecting dust.
• Endeavour to keep at least 2 plants alive this year. Real blue sky thinking happening here.

• Batch cook your lunches on a Sunday because you are indeed That Bitch.
• Practise realism and know that 10k steps a day simply ain’t gonna happen so aim for a humble 5,000 instead. Mo Farah WHO?
• Imagine five realistic scenarios in which you will wear a new item of clothing before buying it- and no, dinner with Harry Styles doesn’t count.
• Buy an address book and keep it updated because isn’t that what being a ‘together’ adult looks like?
• Try to reply to all messages within a 6 hour window because the unread WhatsApp notifications are really throwing off the Zen vibe.
• Put your laundry away as soon as it’s dry. Boom- 2022, completed it.

• Actually put some money into your Help to Buy ISA rather than scrolling past it, a la spinach in the fridge.
• Buy a boujie water bottle because would it be a new year’s resolutions post if it didn’t include drinking more H2O? Didn’t think so.
• Try out cold showers because if feeling good is as easy as that then wtf have we been doing all this time.
• Take your rubbish out of the car ASAP because pushing old McDonalds bags out of the way upon trying to use the passenger seat is not conducive to a good start to the day, just sayin’.
• Endeavour to do more for the planet. That includes more public transport, less fast fashion and remembering your Keep Cup.
• Download the Calm app and dedicate 10 minutes a day to meditating because with Mr Omicron around you’re gonna need it.
• Start gratitude journalling before bed because although the 2020 nightmare is still living on, there are in fact some things to be grateful for, e.g. Andrew Garfield in Spider-Man NWH.

• Call your grandparents more often because 1. Wholesome and 2. They will love you even more for it.
• Try not to sleep in your make-up after a night out by imagining Caroline Hirons watching over you as you lay your head down with foundation still clinging to that dry patch on your cheek. Grab for an oil cleanser STAT.
• Perfect one impressive recipe that can be used for every dinner party in the entirety of 2022. This adulting lark might not be so hard after all!
• Set some sort of weekly or monthly budget and try sticking to it. The operative word being ‘try’.
• Practice intentional breathing and check in with yourself throughout the day during moments of stress to see if you’re holding your breath or clenching your jaw. Small habits can equal big changes.
• Unsubscribe from all the SH*T in your inbox and feel immediately cleansed.
• Subscribe to the Zoella newsletter because the 2022 content is already off the charts.
• Apply sunscreen daily because remember, Hirons is always watching.
• Go through your camera roll and don’t hold back on deleting that old screenshot you’ve revisited approximately never, because no one needs 20,000 pics let’s be real.
• Schedule more fun because you’re the one writing your resolutions and it doesn’t have to be all salads and early nights- go wild people!
• Send more hand-written cards, just because. Everyone loves a meaningful card, and your relationships will likely go from strength to strength as a result.
• Create more of a mindful relationship with alcohol and drink when it enhances your life, not masks problems.

• Make an effort to shop small for birthdays and anniversaries and celebrate the indie businesses killing the game.
• Assess what makes your heart sing and create a plan to change what doesn’t. Not everything boring in life can be swapped out, but the new year offers fresh motivation to increase the love in your life- be it your job, home or relationships.
• Carve out time for solo activities every month- be it lunch, the cinema, or even a walk in nature, you are the main character!
• Unfollow the social media accounts that make you feel 1/10 and remember you’re in charge of fostering an environment you thrive in.
• Don’t say “I’m sorry” unless you really mean it.
• Learn something you never did as a child- be it swimming, riding a bike or practicing self-compassion, listening to our inner child more can heal endless wounds.
• Stop scrolling on your phone whilst watching Netflix and maybe then you’ll understand what’s going on in Riverdale. Probably not, but you might.
• Pay it forward and pass on the good vibes because sometimes they really do make the world keeping turning.

• Listen to a new album every month and give your neighbours a break from SOUR.
• Spot clean your home as you go, because although satisfying, that big Sunday clean need not be so long.
• Stop the FOMO and set a limit on your daily Instagram usage- yes we see you scrolling under the covers.
• Conquer a fear and feel like a boss because of it. Spiders COME @ ME.
• Stop self-sabotaging your relationships and learn about your
  love/apology languages and attachment style to bring only the most positive and prosperous relationship into your life.
• Create a daily affirmation that speaks to you and channel it whenever you need throughout the day- let’s start with: “I am destined for greatness this year”.

With Illumen Hall students Audrey and Ivy still on a mission to find out what happened to Lola Radcliffe last year, it seems they’ve got another almighty mystery on their hands and a whole lot more sorrow in Two For Joy…

After revealing she was closing in on Lola’s killer in her latest podcast, Clover is now missing. Can Audrey and Ivy solve the case before another life is claimed by the murderous Magpie Society?

Your soul will leave your body when you get to the plot twist of the decade. Find out what the team thought of the chilling conclusion to the Magpie Society duology.

But first, here’s a reminder of the blurb!

A deadly disappearance
A race against time
And, at the eleventh hour . . .
A shocking revelation

Audrey and Ivy, determined to bring their fellow student Lola Radcliffe’s killer to justice, find themselves in the middle of another mystery when a friend disappears in suspicious circumstances.

Their only clue is a mysterious card left by the enigmatic Magpie Society. With time running out and the police baffled, Audrey and Ivy must delve deeper than ever into the dark secrets that their school is hiding.

But someone is playing a deadly game. And to beat them, Audrey and Ivy have to start rewriting the rules…