Amongst the sharing, we've found endless 'add to basket' worthy fashion brands, art to brighten up the blandest of walls and cookbooks to forever transform a boring mid-week meal.
The exponential growth in awareness of the Black Lives Matter Movement in recent weeks has educated, informed and opened our eyes to ways we can support members of the Black community today, tomorrow and forever. Amongst the sharing, we’ve found endless ‘add to basket’ worthy fashion brands, art to brighten up the blandest of walls and cookbooks to forever transform a boring mid-week meal.
Using our money to support independent retailers has always been important, but now more than ever it’s essential to buy from those who deserve the success that has come more easily to their white counterparts. We apologise in advance to your bank balance!
Hooray! Summer feels like it's here to stay, and we couldn't be happier about it. We've switched out jeans for bare legs and cardigans for strapless numbers, and now it's time to do the same for our homes.
Life is better when the sun is out, and also when you have an excuse for an H&M Home or IKEA order.
Hooray! Summer feels like it’s here to stay, and we couldn’t be happier about it. We’ve switched out jeans for bare legs and cardigans for strapless numbers, and now it’s time to do the same for our homes. Think white bedsheets, airy curtains, easy to care for greenery and scatter cushions- if you’re a lover of earthy tones and rattan, look no further…
Charlotte
I seem to be all about the textures with these summer homeware updates! Although I moved into my flat in January, I still feel like there are plenty of decor finishing touches that would tie my space together. I love the green of this mirror and the pop of colour it would add to my otherwise v white bedroom.
If I’m brave enough to tackle a hammer and nail, I love the earthy feel of this wall hanging!
Natural materials like rattan, bamboo and wicker are really having a moment right now and they’re perfect for giving a summer beachy vibe to any room. I love the earthy tones and textures which look amazing mixed together or as a standalone statement piece like this amazing H&M chair.
When Spring & Summer roll around the first thing I think to change up is the bedding. A lighter tog, alongside a nice crisp white, always makes the bedroom feel fresher, I actually ordered the Zara bedspread and cushions! I also loved the little strawberry one from h&m for a more cute feel. Cushions with delicate florals are also setting my heart on fire at the moment.
I’ve decided to shop around for some straw/rattan summer pieces for my home. I don’t own many products in this kind of texture but it gives such a beachy rustic look your home. I’ve gone with a new hanging planted for my bedroom, some tumblers for enjoying gin and tonics in the garden, some lovely rattan hooks for my beach bags, and a beach bag that I’m going to use for magazines in my living room!
Time to give the little forgotten areas some TLC. One of our windows could do with a new set of curtains as we’ve still got the pair the previous owner left us and our cutlery drawer could do with a revamp (all the glamorous jobs), so I’ll be refreshing the parts of the home that don’t get a great deal of attention. I love introducing lighter fabrics at this time of year, lots of crumpled linen and natural materials to make it feel like you’re holidaying in a boutique beach resort.
Summer means it’s time for lighter and brighter colours! I love to change up my bedding in Summer, you can’t go wrong with some fresh white sheets and a simple white throw. Pops of colour always look great too and I love these mustard cushions from Oliver Bonas to introduce some colour. Of course, I couldn’t do a home refresh without getting a new houseplant and a cute pot for it too.
How To Make A Bath Chandler Bing Would Be Proud Of
There are two types of people in this world, those that like baths and those that like baths. That's it. There is no other option. Those that say they’re just not bath people simply aren’t doing ‘em right.
There are two types of people in this world, those that like baths and those that like baths. That’s it. There is no other option. Those that say they’re just not bath people simply aren’t doing ‘em right. What other reason could there possibly be for a human to dislike submerging themselves in warm water until their body relaxes so much it wrinkles with joy? Sometimes, it even lets out a little squeak it’s so happy.
The key is the ambience. From lighting your bath right to scenting it with aromatherapy oils, it’s all in the prep.
Here’s how to take your bath experience from lukewarm to Chandler Bing levels of bubbly greatness.
Ambient mood lighting
Let’s face it, a bath without candles is just a disappointing hole in your house with water in it. Let the gentle flicker of candlelight calm your mind and set the mood for your bath experience. This is your time to switch off mentally and physically. So hit the glaring overhead lights and enjoy the soft glow of candles instead.
Choose your intentions
Tune into your emotional wellness – what do you want to get out of this down time? You might want to read a couple of chapters of your book, watch an episode of Grey’s Anatomy uninterrupted or, you might want to dedicate this time to the ritual of just having a bath & practising mindfulness. Set some intentions, leave your phone outside and use this time to unwind however you fancy.
Aromatherapy Assistance
Scent is a powerful thing so we caught up with Christina Salcedas, the director of wellbeing for Aromatherapy Associates to see how they create their blends and why fragrance is so important…
“We create all of our blends from nature’s therapeutic palette, each oil playing a key and active role. We often go against the principles of traditional fragrance rules of top, middle and base notes, instead crafting a blend that really works on our entire body. From the lulling aromas of Vetivert, Camomile and Sandalwood in our Deep Relax blend, readying your mind and body for sleep, to the clarifying scents of Petitgrain and Frankincense in our De-Stress blend to clear your mind and focus your thoughts, remember to listen to your body and trust your innate instincts to take care of your wellbeing.”
How can you feel the benefits of aromatherapy oils other than adding them to your bath?
“I like to take a capful of the oil and rub it over my shoulders, torso and the base of my back before sinking into a hot bath. I cup my hands to my face and inhale deeply a few times. If you’ve been feeling anxious or stressed, taking time to relax in the bath with these anxiety-soothing essential oils can really help you slow down your thoughts, refocus the mind and leave you feeling calm & still.”
What oil would you recommend for people going through a difficult time in the current climate?
“If you’re feeling nervous about returning back to Society, or if you’re currently facing a challenging time in your life, our Inner Strength blend is like a ‘hug in a bottle’. Blended with anxiety-soothing Clary Sage, emotion-grounding Sandalwood and the purest Geranium to help balance scattered thoughts & emotions, leaving you feeling more confident, comforted and reassured.”
Get comfortable
Craning your neck in the bath doesn’t exactly scream zen. Roll up a towel to prop up your neck whilst you’re laying back or recline with a bath cushion to support your head whilst you read or catch up on your favourite series.
Create a relaxing playlist
If you struggle to switch off when you’re having a soak, a relaxing playlist will ease you into a state of calm. The dulcet tones of Norah Jones, Bon Iver, John Legend, Katie Melua and Corrine Bailey Rae will soon wash your worries & cares down the plug hole. See ya, neg energy!
Get the temperature just right
Do the elbow test – if the water’s too hot it will strip your skin of all your essential oils which can lead to skin irritation, so it’s best for your bathwater to be warm rather than uncomfortably hot. Just like baby bear’s porridge, it should be just right.
Add in some bath salts
To recreate the spa ambience from home and turn an average bath into a 10/10 soak, add in a cup of muscle-soothing bath salts.
Here’s how to make your own home blend!
You will need:
1 cup of Epsom bath salts – make sure they are the well-sourced type (100% natural) ½ cup course sea salt 5 – 10 drops of essential oils – lavender, citrus & eucalyptus all work really nicely ¼ cup baking soda ¼ cup of dried lavender or rose petals Mini mason jars / glass jars with lids for storage
Mix all the ingredients together in a bowl, breaking up any big clumps. Decant your bath salts into mini mason jars and pour ¼ – ½ jar into your bath when you’re ready to use. They also make blooming lovely gifts.
Use this time to pamper yourself
Envelop yourself in warm bubbles, apply your favourite cleansing mask and exfoliate your bod’ top to toe. This is where a bath caddy comes in very handy, so your glass of wine (ahem, priorities) and all your favourite pamper products are within reach. No one wants to be slipping in and out of the tub for laughs.
Embrace the bath time mindset
What happens when you get out the bath is just as important as what you do in there, so before you go rushing around catching up with the group messages you’ve missed in that sacred 20 minutes you’ve been separated from your phone, focus on extending that bath mindset right up until bedtime. Stay off your phone if you can (all the blue light can disrupt the body’s circadian rhythms), climb into a fluffy bath robe or something comfortable and make yourself a cup of herbal tea.
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Wallowing in the tub certainly makes the case for staying in! How do you create your perfect bath ritual? We’d love to hear your hacks!
Between You And Me: Answering Your Problems Part 5
We’re back with our monthly instalment of Between You & Me – an advice page dedicated to answering all manner of problems, big and small.
We’re back with our monthly instalment of Between You & Me – an advice page dedicated to answering all manner of problems, big and small.
From holding down female friendships at work to body hair issues and libido chat, here’s what pearls of wisdom we’ve got for you in part 5 of our BYAM series.
Lareese
I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling at work lovely! Making the transition between uni and the workplace can be daunting and overwhelming, no doubt about it, so don’t underestimate the significance of this life change. Starting your first proper job in the real world is a BIG deal and all of your feelings are absolutely valid.
There’s going to be plenty of ‘firsts’ to navigate in your job role, and finding who you are as a person within the context of your career and that will take some time to figure out. But you’ll certainly get into the groove of things and find your confidence with it. No one should be made to feel uncomfortable or invisible in the workplace and if the problem continues, I would suggest having an honest conversation with either your line manager or HR department. This colleague might be completely unaware of how her behaviour implicating both your ability to do your job and your mental health. Communication is everything and -although I’m not making excuses for her behaviour, how hard is it to acknowledge someone in a lift with a friendly smile, after all? – I think being the bigger person and giving someone the benefit of the doubt shows your emotional maturity and willingness to move forward with the situation.
Even if it isn’t personal, it sure does feel personal to you, so that’s a conversation that needs to be had. You never know, maybe she’s got her own sh*t going on at home and she’s bringing it to work with her and you, through no fault of your own, are bearing the brunt of it. Aside from that one particular colleague, what’s the work culture like at your company? Do you have any opportunities to hang out together outside of doing your 9-5? If not, why don’t you propose that you guys get together for a few drinks after work (when the pubs are open again) to socialise as people rather than just colleagues, or have Friday Fizz in the office? It’s a great way to break the ice and build genuine rapport with your teammates. Not everyone at work has to be your best pal, it might be that your network of relationships within your job are just strictly professional and that’s ok, as long as it’s still a friendly environment.
I don’t think female friendships get easier or harder necessarily, I think you just learn to make your peace with the fact, not every female you meet, in whatever scenario or social context, will end up being your friend. They won’t all be your kind of people and vice versa.
It sounds like you have a really wonderful group of pals around you who have been present for most of your life, so I’d focus on nurturing those relationships and using them as your support network. The work dynamic will change all the time as new faces join and people move on so, don’t give up on those friendships yet. Remember, this is your first job and you won’t always feel this way.
It will get better and you will build friendships with your work colleagues organically over time but yeah, happy hour always helps, ha! Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. Lots of love, Lareese xX
Maddie
Really sorry to hear that you’re feeling anxious about forming new female friendships and that’s really rubbish that you’re experiencing some coldness from a new colleague. Going into a new workplace is a lot like joining a new school halfway through term, everyone else is already settled in with their friendship groups and you’re going to find people you immediately click with and others that for whatever reason you don’t right away. This could naturally make anyone feel a little bit worried or insecure at first, and it’s completely ok to feel like that. Please don’t be discouraged these things usually just take time and the best thing you can do is not try to force it and be yourself as much as you can. I’m definitely an over-thinker and quite sensitive too so I think I would be feeling the same way you are if I was in your position but here are some alternative conclusions that are quite possible and I do feel it’s worth giving people the benefit of the doubt sometimes; perhaps she completely blanked on your name at the party (trust me as you get older this happens more and more!), as you’re new to the business that is possible and would have been just as embarrassing for her if she had got it wrong, perhaps she finds social situations like making small talk in lifts awkward so would rather keep her head down than make eye contact…or, of course, there’s every chance that she is just a bit rude and not interested in making any new friends. Unfortunately in life, you do come across bad eggs from time to time. Hopefully, there are other people in the business that are more on your wavelength that you can find common ground with and as new people join the company you will naturally gravitate towards other like-minded people and build some great friendships. I also want to give you some assurance that you will find female friendships as you get older and they will end up being some of your absolute best friends in later life. I’ve been working for the same company for nearly 8 years and I count my colleagues amongst some of my closest friends and mentors, I even had an ex-colleague as one of my bridesmaids at my wedding. These things don’t happen overnight though so give it a bit of time. I hope things get easier for you, please do reach out if you ever need any more advice! Take care, Maddie xx
Charlotte
Hi! This problem really stood out to me as I’ve been having similar thoughts myself, and can definitely relate to your worries as a 22-year-old too! I think when it comes to our bodies and how we like things to look, it’s very much a personal preference in finding what makes you feel like the best version of you. During lockdown, I stopped shaving my legs, more out of laziness than anything else, and have actually felt a sense of liberation from leaving that area untouched for the longest time since I probably first started growing hair on my legs. Whilst I still sometimes love how shaven legs feel after a good exfoliation and moisturise post-shower, leaving the hair there for far longer than I usually would made me realise that hair is actually not that deep, and no one is judging me either way. Previously I would have been so embarrassed if I’d gone out wearing a skirt and forgotten to shave, and would probably even have made a weird and unnecessary apology along the lines of “ignore my leg hair!” or “excuse the fact I forgot to shave” purely to counteract what I thought others must be thinking. Letting my body simple ‘be’ has helped change my relationship with body hair so much, and it might be something worth trying in your case too. Maybe it’s worth sparking a conversation up with the girls you’re living with and discussing body hair and how you’re feeling about it- I’m 99% they’ll have felt the same in many regards as you’re all swimming together, and it might just help you feel a bit more relaxed and liberated in removing the embarrassment from one of the most natural things our bodies do. Whether you decide to let your body hair grow a little or go ahead with laser hair removal, it’s important to remind yourself that whichever option makes you most comfortable is the right one. Don’t put pressure on yourself to make a decision right away, and definitely don’t go ahead with the hair removal if you feel it’s something you’re doing for others and their opinions more than for yourself. I hope you can enjoy the summer season and feel comfortable and confident in bikinis, shorts and strappy tops galore!
Danielle
Hey anon, thanks so much for writing in with this as I think it’s an extremely common query people have with themselves and I think a lot of people will relate to this. I’m obviously no expert on sexuality and I would consider myself straight but I also would never rule out a relationship with a woman, does that make me bisexual? Maybe, but I don’t think you always have to label yourself. Sexuality is fluid and it’s a sliding scale, try not to feel guilty about having feelings like that towards woman as it’s nothing to be ashamed about. Don’t worry too much about labelling yourself and just move through life taking each relationship and opportunity as it comes. Maybe your past trauma has something to do with these feelings and if you want to properly unpack that, it might be worth finding a therapist to talk through it with.
Zoe
Overthinking is something I am very good at too. Having lived with anxious episodes on and off since being 14, I feel that they both go hand in hand. When you are feeling anxious or overthinking, you are very much “in your own head”. One thing my therapist always shared with me which I found very helpful was that when you are doing this, you should intentionally start thinking more “outward”. Look at strangers passing by and think about what they might be doing, where they might be going, what sort of life they might have, whether or not they might be overthinking about something too and what that might me. Focusing on someone else takes your mind away from over-focusing on yourself or the things you are worrying or feeling anxious about. This might help you in the supermarket scenario. Although it may feel like you are the only one worrying about being there, others around you might be feeling that way too, even though they might not show signs of it. Another thing I learnt that helped me over the years was breaking the worry circle. If you find yourself worrying about something over and over and you feel there is no way to action that worry, you should drop it, because it is an endless circle that will not stop and is such a waste of your brain space. For example “I’m so worried I offended my friend yesterday” [can you action this? Yes. You can message your friend and check] “I’m worried I messed up on that test” [Can you action this? No. You can’t find out whether you passed or failed so this a pointless worry that you should drop because it’s not serving you in any way] It’s a tough one to get your mind around at first but I find it so effective. We often don’t think about actioning our worries so they won’t worry us anymore because we’re so used to sitting with them for so long. It’s also true that the things we often worry about happening seldom do, and the huge life events that happen out of nowhere won’t have even crossed our minds.
Lareese
Hello lovely!
Thank you for sharing your problem with us. It’s very easy to feel like we have to reach certain milestones in our lives by a certain stage in our lives and with that comes a lot of unnecessary pressure, what I would say is, you’ll know when the time is right for you to start dating. It’s on your terms, no one else’s. I’m nearly 30 and I have some friends that are doing marriage and babies and others who are still enjoying the dating scene. So to hell with the rulebook, ‘late’ simply doesn’t exist. Of course, it’s important that, when you are ready to meet someone, you have the self-confidence to feel good about it, but why should your weight even be up for discussion? There’s so much more to who you than how much you weigh and how you value yourself shouldn’t be determined by the numbers on the scales or how successful you are at shrinking yourself physically and mentally. You are worthy of being loved for who you are as a person, not merely what you look like. Between the ages of say 15 and 20, I had a really tough time with my appearance, over-exercising and denying myself of calories because I thought that was my golden ticket to confidence and approval but it was such a waste of time. Losing the weight was a quick and temporary fix and actually it took years of working on myself from the inside out for the penny to finally drop. I’ve given up caring what other people think of my body, because it belongs to me, no-one else. Are you a good friend? Do you have a fab sense of humour? Are you a kind person? – aren’t they things to feel confident about? Tap into the things that make the f*cking great human that you are and maybe then when you’ve acknowledged the things you really do LOVE about yourself, you won’t equate weight loss to self-worth. You shouldn’t have to make yourself smaller or change yourself to fit in with certain unattainable beauty standards to feel worthy. It’s great that you’re recognising that your obsession with losing weight isn’t healthy behaviour. Perhaps try chatting with your parents about how their comments have made you feel, too. You need their support right now! Being thin shouldn’t be the pinnacle of beauty and attraction – know your worth exists far beyond the realms of that damaging narrative and any future boyfriend worth your time and love will know that. Sending lots of love! Lareese xx
Maddie
Hey! I’m so pleased you’ve taken the time to write in to us about this, for you to already have the self-awareness that you have about your body and how you’re treating it is such an important step to finding happier and healthier ways to live. I’ve grown up my entire life thinking that I should be on some kind of diet and if I’m being completely honest I still have massive ups and downs with it and wish that I could say hand on heart that I always feel confident about my body, I don’t. Even at my thinnest I wasn’t content and I look back now thinking how crazy that seems but there were other reasons that were making me unhappy which I think altered my whole way of thinking, I was also incredibly unhealthy. That being said I don’t think I know a single woman who is 100% happy with their bodies 100% of the time. This is an incredibly sad fact and most likely brought upon by these ideals we’ve been programmed through the media that personifies “perfection” whatever that is. Thankfully it feels as though there is a wave of body positivity and body acceptance online that I want to see gather as much momentum as possible as I for one would love to see those perceptions changed, I highly recommend you follow those people, we’ve featured many of them on Zoella before! When it comes to you being “late” to the boyfriend thing I assure you that’s just society pressure getting in your head again. There is no such thing as late and I promise you I’ve had times where I was much happier single than with a boyfriend so a boyfriend is not necessarily the key to happiness. If I were you I would concentrate all of your energy on yourself, what things make you happy? Figure that out and then do MORE of it. You shouldn’t have to change yourself for anybody, when the right person comes along they’re not going to just see your body, they’re going to see your intelligence, sense of humour, opinions, kindness and all of the other things that make you who you are. If you are set on losing weight then do it for the right reasons, do it because YOU want to feel stronger and healthier not because you want other people to see you differently. Find a personal trainer and nutritionist who can make sure you’re doing it the right way and find a balance that works for you. Take care of yourself! Maddie x
Zoe
Hello! Sorry to hear you’re having a tough time with this! As Danielle mentioned, conversations around porn/only fans with partners is probably not that common within relationships although I do think would be a very healthy thing to be able to talk to your partner about generally. Everyone will have different levels of what they feel is appropriate and where their feelings lie about it and the only thing you can do is make him aware of how it affects you and how you feel. I also think it would be good for you both to talk about his feelings towards it too. I think it would be good for the both of you to communicate in a much more positive way, make it more of a conversation as opposed to an argument where he may feel he needs to be defensive and say what he thinks you want to hear as opposed to being truly honest with you. I think judging by your email, everything seems to point towards honesty and truthfulness and that you feel you might not be getting that and it’s such an important part of any relationship. Speaking with one another when you’re both calm, collected and having a nice day together will ensure it feels a lot more like a safe space for an open chat. Let him know exactly how you’re feeling and hopefully, he will find he can be more honest with you too. It’s also so important that you zoom out and look at the bigger picture when things like this feel so consuming in your relationship. You have both just purchased your first house and it’s such an exciting step and commitment to one another, it would be such a shame to let this get bigger than it needs to be! Hope it goes well, wishing you all the luck!! x
Danielle
Hey Anon, thanks so much or writing in about this kind of relationship issue, I think partners talking to each other about how much they watch porn/use only fans/masturbate in general is quite rare and they’re hard conversations to have. You can be left feeling hurt that you’re not ‘enough’ but that isn’t always the case and people don’t always seek out that kind of content because they’re unhappy with their partner. I think one of the main themes in your message is that your thinking a lot about this and you’ve only really had one conversation with your partner. You clearly love each other very much and this should be such an exciting part of your relationship having just moved into a new house together and starting a new journey. I think you’re probably going through some stuff separately as you mentioned your partner is on anti-depressants and you’re concerned that your weight gain has made you less attractive to him. I’d suggest writing down everything you want to chat to him about and sit him down with no distractions and have those hard conversations. Communication is everything in a relationship and if you’re constantly guessing his thoughts and feelings I’m reminding you that you can just ask him. It might feel like a weight off both your shoulders as no one wants to feel awkward or tense around their partner. Wishing you all the best, Danielle xx
Keep sending your problems to Betweenyouandme@zoella.co.uk as we’ll be answering more next month!
11 Books You Need to Read If You Love a Juicy Plot Twist
If you came here for the kind of plot twists that make you say what the actual f*ck, then a) you’re in the right place b) you’re going to need a lie-down after this lot.
If you came here for the kind of plot twists that make you say what the actual f*ck, then a) you’re in the right place b) you’re going to need a lie-down after this lot.
Whether it’s a whodunit reveal or a heart-breaking denouement, these are the books that will turn everything you thought you knew upside down and inside out. Add them to your TBR pile immediately!
Who goes to a dinner party next door and leaves her baby alone in the house? What kind of mother does such a thing? She feels the familiar agony set in – she is not a good mother.
People are capable of almost anything. You never know what’s happening on the other side of the wall. Your neighbour told you that she didn’t want your six-month-old daughter at the dinner party. Nothing personal, she just couldn’t stand her crying. Your husband said it would be fine. After all, you only live next door. You’ll have the baby monitor and you’ll take it in turns to go back every half hour. Your daughter was sleeping when you checked on her last.
But now, as you race up the stairs in your deathly quiet house, your worst fears are realized. She’s gone. You’ve never had to call the police before. But now they’re in your home, and who knows what they’ll find there. What would you be capable of, when pushed past your limit?
Get ready for a rollercoaster of emotions. You will not see these twists coming.
An ugly, sinister and all-together gruesome story with an almighty revelation – what more would you expect from master of gripping page-turners, Gillian Flynn? You will want to re-read it just to go back and spot the red herrings.
The best-selling novel behind the hit HBO TV series starring Reese Witherspoon and Nicole Kidman. Liane Moriarty will have you up all night with this unputdownable story of ‘perfect’ lives torn apart by ugly secrets. All we’re going to say is, don’t mess with these women.
A poignant and deeply important novel that examines systemic racism and media bias through the lens of teenage girl, Claudia. Get ready for one hell of a book hangover.
Monday Charles is missing, and only Claudia seems to notice. Claudia and Monday have always been inseparable-more sisters than friends. So when Monday doesn’t turn up for the first day of school, Claudia’s worried.
When she doesn’t show for the second day, or second week, Claudia knows that something is wrong. Monday wouldn’t just leave her to endure tests and bullies alone. Not after last year’s rumours and not with her grades on the line. Now Claudia needs her best-and only-friend more than ever. But Monday’s mother refuses to give Claudia a straight answer, and Monday’s sister April is even less help.
As Claudia digs deeper into her friend’s disappearance, she discovers that no one seems to remember the last time they saw Monday. How can a teenage girl just vanish without anyone noticing that she’s gone?
A hen party in a remote cottage in the woods…what could possibly go wrong? It will leave your jaw dangling on the floor too many times to count.
6 The Girl on The Train – Paula Hawkins
Admit it, there’s no way you’d take this list seriously without this honourable mention. A missing woman, adultery and an unreliable narrator? Oh it’s juicy alright. You’ll be flabbergasted, exhausted and emotionally drained. In a good way.
You think you know where this story’s heading, but you don’t, and your heart will never recover from the devastation. Warning: not safe to read in public unless you can blame a severe bout of hay fever.
An atmospheric Dickensian novel chock full of whiplash-inducing twists and turns. At nearly 600 pages long, it’s one big beautiful monster but if you stick with it, you’ll be richly rewarded.
9 My Sister’s Keeper – Jodi Picoult
In all thirteen years of Anna’s life, her parents have never given her a choice: she was born to be her sister Kate’s bone marrow donor and she has always given Kate everything she needs.
But when Anna is told Kate needs a new kidney, she begins to question how much she should be prepared to do to save the older sibling she has always been defined by. So, Anna makes a decision that will change their family forever – perhaps even fatally for the sister she loves.
We won’t spoil it for you but let it be known that the gut-wrenching ending will leave you inconsolable for weeks. Possibly even months.
10 Elizabeth Is Missing – Emma Healey
Not your average murder mystery – Healey’s debut novel is narrated by Maud, an 82-year-old woman with dementia. She makes cups of tea and forgets to drink them; sometimes she doesn’t recognise her own daughter but there’s one thing she is sure of: her friend Elizabeth is missing.
There’s a twist and then there’s a Gillian Flynn t-w-i-s-t. If you’ve managed to avoid reading the book or watching the film, don’t waste another second.
What’s the best book twist you’ve ever read? Let us know in the comments so we can add them to our TBR piles!
Check out our must-have tech picks that make life that little bit easier, in this week's Weekly Wants!
This week we’re talking all things tech, sharing the gadgets and gizmos we can’t live without. From hair tools that give a salon worthy finish (essential given the state of our lockdown hair right now), pet security cameras to check in with your furry friends, to noise cancelling headphones so you can listen to your boppiest playlist without being disturbed.
Check out our must-have tech picks that make life that little bit easier, in this week’s Weekly Wants!
Charlotte
I rarely go out without my trusty camera in tow- this one may have originally been my boyfriends which I’ve accidentally-on-purpose-adopted. My bag almost always has it in, as well as some noise-cancelling headphones that in normal circumstances I wear to the gym, for walks and when travelling.
I didn’t realise how useful having an Amazon Echo would be until I moved into my current flat and started using my flatmates, and I have to say it’s v handy for setting a little cooking timer handsfree! Finally, an external hard drive. I have more photos and videos on here than any one person needs but I always keep them backed up!
So I’m yet to invest but I’m currently in need of a massive hair haul! I can’t wait to have my hair done when we’re allowed and know I need the right tools to keep it looking great. I’ve heard so much AMAZING feedback from the GHD platinum+ straighteners and the technology sounds so much better than what I’m currently using. I’m also interested in their hot glide brush for and the soft curl tong. Even though I’m not about to drop this much money on hair tools I probably will over time as they last SO long. I’ve had my current lot for 10 years so if I’m thinking about cost per use they’re absolutely worth it.
I’m super excited for the new Sony ZV-1 compact camera. As a loyal Canon g7x fan for years, I’m super intrigued by this as it has been designed with “vlogging” in mind and has new specific features to enhance the “vlogger” user experience.
The furbo is something we have owned for years now and we love it! Ever wondered what your pet gets up to when you leave the house? It’s essentially a security camera for your dog, but with the built-in ability to fire treats wherever you are in the world. I love it because you can open the app at any time to check up on them, and can even speak to them if you need to. We’ve bought this for so many family and friends and they all end up loving it as much as we do!
Ever since we’ve been working from home, I’ve been looking at getting myself a pair of the wireless AirPods to make team calls a bit easier. They might be a bit spenny but they’re so lightweight and easy to charge that I feel like it’s a worthwhile investment. Now we’re utilising our homes as photography studios, I think a remote control for my camera will come in very handy when shooting self-portraits. It’s such a great gadget to have in your kit.
I have been a long time user of the Google Pixel phone and still can’t fault it. The Pixel 4 is the newest addition to the family and it’s easily the best phone I’ve ever had, the camera quality is so good you can even take pictures of stars at night. My newest tech must-have was actually a birthday present which is the Dyson cool tower fan. It’s completely blade-free, has 10 different speed settings and you can set it to a timer to turn off when you want it to. I don’t know how I survived without it now.
I think everyone needs a portable charger, this one from Elefull is great for day-to-day. It normally does around two full charges, so good if you are going to the beach or park all day! When it comes to headphones, these Bang and Olufsen ones are amazing, best sound by far out of all the headphones I’ve tried. Last is the Echo Dot I always bang on about, but it really is so handy to have. Tells you the weather in the mornings, plays any music you want, knows EVERYTHING. Maybe I’m just lazy but I love it being told to me haha!
From sheet masks to feet masks and bubbling formulas that wouldn’t look out of place in Professor Flitwick’s Charm class, there’s a plethora of magic lotions and potions to choose from out there. Here's a look at the team's top masks!
Masks have become the cliché of all quarantine clichés, second only to baking banana bread. Remember those early days? Weeks 1 – 4. That sh*t was BANANAS.
From sheet masks to feet masks and bubbling formulas that wouldn’t look out of place in Professor Flitwick’s Charm class, there’s a plethora of magic lotions and potions to choose from out there.
Whether you’re looking to target acne, brighten your complexion or give your hair some extra shine, there’s a mask for each woe known for every guy, gal, and non-binary pal. Hopefully, you’ll find a few new discoveries, faithful favourites and ‘can’t live withouts’. Here’s a look at the team’s top masks!
Lareese
The Origins Drink Up 10-Minute Maskwith Apricot and Swiss Glacier Water is possibly the best thing I’ve ever smelt and I’m only being ever so slightly dramatic. I turn 30 next year, so I’m all about skincare that delivers fast and effective results. This cult classic contains skin-plumping hyaluronic acid and targeted Advanced Hydration Technology and it just so happens to smell GREAT, so it ticks all the boxes.
One mask I’ll always make time for in my self-care routine is the Oskia Renaissance mask. It’s such a beautiful and gentle buttery formula designed to boost radiance, alleviate congestion and reduce the appearance of fine lines. Believe the hype – it’s a solid all-rounder.
I couldn’t discuss masks without including this iconic sheet mask in there somewhere. The By Terry Baume de Rose mask is, as the name suggests, infused with rose petals and hydrating rose oil. It’s as dreamy as it sounds. Whenever my skin is feeling particularly grouchy and parched – usually after a few too many wines on my doorstep – I slap this mask on and my skin gradually forgives me. Keep it in the fridge until you’re ready to use it – man, it’s like a hug for your face.
Darcey
I recently started shopping more at The Body Shop as I really love the ethics behind the brand and the products are also lovely. I tried out their Himalayan Charcoal Purifying Glow Mask after my friend recommended it to me and instantly loved it! I’m prone to blackheads on my nose and this mask really helps clear them out, if you like satisfying gross stuff too, you can literally see the oil and sebum that has been pushed out of your pores on the surface of the mask.
Another mask I’m loving from The Body Shop is their Banana Truly Nourishing Hair Mask, It’s a quick mask which you only have to leave on for 5-10 mins in the shower and you come out with lovely smooth hair. It smells great too, I love that sweet banana smell!
Deviating from The Body Shop, Superdrug’s own brand Coconut Oil for Hair and Skin is also really great. It’s a bit messier as it’s and oil and you can leave it in for a minimum of 1-2 hours, but I usually leave it in over night! Coconut oil is great for your hair though, especially for me who has bleached hair which needs some extra care until we can go back to a salon!
Lastly I love the Garnier Vitamin C Sheet Shot Mask, it’s really brightening and good to use when you feel like your complexion is looking a bit dull.
Danielle
I’ve always been a fan of masks as a form of self-care, I love seeing results and who doesn’t want softer skin, shinier hair, and smooth feet! My most recent mask is the PHAT Glow Facial from Ole Henrikson. You can apply it a couple of times a week and it’s amazing for doing before your makeup before an event. It comes out in a sticky pink formula that you massage on to your face until it turns white. Wash off after 10mins for the most baby soft skin!
Another fave is the Lumene Nordic Hydra Oxygen Recovery 72h Hydra Gel Mask. It’s a thick jelly I whack on whilst I’m in the bath and wash off the residue when I get out. I sometimes apply a thinner layer as a sleep mask. It leaves me with plump healthy skin and a lovely glow.
My top hair mask would have to be The Circle Masks from Davines. You can get different ones depending on what you want to focus on, I usually go for shine which is The Spotlight version.Apply to shampooed, towel-dried hair. Leave for 10-15 mins then comb through and rinse! Great for events when you want to really make the effort or if your locks are feeling a little bit lacklustre!
Maddie
I am a huge fan of masks for one reason only, they actually do make a big difference. I never used to bother that much but when I got engaged a few years ago I knew I needed to up my game to get my hair and skin looking it’s best. So many people in the industry told me I needed to embrace masks to do this and I was told that ideally I should be using them at least twice a week which I’ve been doing so ever since.
If my skin is having a breakout or I’m experiencing redness I’ll use this Origins relief soothing face mask. This stuff is genius and I’ll see a drastic improvement to spots whenever I use it.
I love the idea of things working magic while you sleep so a few of my favourite masks are to use overnight. Summer Fridays Jet Lag and The Body Shop drops of youth are too of the best I’ve tried for when my skin really needs that extra hydration.
My top pick hair mask has to be Olaplex which I was recommended by my hairdresser Sam who uses it in her salon. Whether you leave it on for 10 minutes or overnight this stuff keeps your hair strong between haircuts, I swear by it.
Charlotte
I seem to remember Origins being the first skincare brand that I splurged on as a teen, and their Active Charcoal Mask has been a firm favourite of mine since sixth form. It’s great for anyone with an oily complexion and always leaves my skin feeling so clear and free of dirt and oil from the day.
2020 has been a year of a slight hair disaster for me, as my highlighted hair was left a bit frazzled and over-processed after a visit to the salon in December, so I’d like to think I know a thing or two about recovery hair masks by now. I’ve tried more expensive remedies but this beauty from Bleach London has honestly saved my hair from many a knot disaster. I go through a LOT of this stuff when I wash my hair and make sure to leave it on for around 30 minutes before washing off for the maximum moisture hit. It makes brushing through bleached hair much easier and the affordable price tag means you don’t need to be sparing.
Secondly, and definitely on that pricier side, the Phillip Kingsley Elasticizer Deep Conditioning Treatment. This is a pre shampoo mask to be applied on wet hair and again designed to be left on for as long as possible (they recommend 60 mins!). Although it makes my hair wash day a tiresome process, the moisture this mask gives whilst still leaving my hair feeling light and bouncy is second to none.
Life In the Slow Fashion Lane: In Conversation With Charlotte Instone | Know The Origin
We sat down with Charlotte Instone to find out the story behind her ethical fair trade fashion brand, Know The Origin, and to get her expert tips on how we, as consumers, can strive to do better and shop smarter - and slower - than ever before.
Zero waste, transparency, sustainability – we’re all familiar with this terminology but how can we actually learn to adopt a cleaner, greener lifestyle and create positive change in our lives, particularly when it comes to fast fashion?
We sat down with Charlotte Instone to find out the story behind her ethical fair trade fashion brand, Know The Origin, and to get her expert tips on how we, as consumers, can strive to do better and shop smarter – and slower – than ever before.
What’s the story behind Know The Origin and what inspired you to start your own ethical marketplace?
When I was studying Fashion Buying and Merchandising at London College of Fashion I had, like most people, heard of ethical fashion. Whilst in my second year of university, the Rana Plaza garment factory collapsed, killing over 1100 people and injuring thousands more. The factory was making clothes for a lot of high street retailers.
Currently, 61% of brands don’t know where their clothes are made and 93% don’t know where fabrics come from. When I graduated, I launched with a small Fairtrade and organic range made by women’s cooperatives and producers in India. We wanted everyone to be able to know and love where their clothes had come from because until you know the origin, you can’t really know if it’s truly ethical or not. I’ve become aware of so many epic ethical brands that people needed to know about. So, last year, 75+ ethical brands joined Know The Origin, to create an online home for sustainable brands.
What are some of your favourite ethical brands stocked at Know The Origin and how do you go about selecting them?
It’s impossible to choose my favourite brand’ from socks that give a pair to the homeless for every one sold, to candles that proceeds support women affected by domestic violence to reusable wipes that save thousands of pieces of plastic from being used.
We are always on the lookout for new brands, and throughout the year we build up an amazing database of brands that we have slowly been adding to. Our criteria is first and foremost, sustainability, we have a strict guideline to the minimum requirements we have for brands to get on our platform, including things like no synthetic fabrics are used, all brands must be transparent about their supply chain, and all products are plastic-free. In September, we will launch our standard, so you will be able to see from fair and safe working conditions to eco-friendly materials to equality and modern slavery prevention, how different brands equate.
We are passionate as a team to ensure diversity and inclusion is at the core of our mission, so within these new standards, our equality standard will ensure that brands are giving evidence to how they are employing non-discriminatory practices. For our own label, we want to help lead the charge, by continuing to use equally diverse models that represent the human race and we will continue to work with factories and certifications that are pioneering new ways of addressing discrimination. We will also actively use our panel discussions to bring wider conversations and voices to discuss racism and injustice.
How can we as consumers do more to ensure our wardrobes are more considered?
I think remembering to pause before buying! The fast fashion world has encouraged us to impulse buy and follow our ‘sales eyes’ and it’s making us mindless consumers. The next time you are shopping, pause to remember that the product you’re holding has been through so many peoples hands, it has a huge environmental impact. Ask yourself if your going to wear this atleast 30 times. Ask the store who made it? Seek brands that show you transparency around certifications such as GOTS organic, Fairtrade etc. Slowing down when shopping is not about feeling guilty, but about remaining aware of the realities and being conscious of how your money can be used positively!
How important is traceability and transparency in what you do at Know The Origin?
Without transparency, there is no accountability or real meaningful change in the fashion industry. In our own label and the brands we work with, it has to be a core part of what we do. On our new site from September, you will be able to see from farm to factory the full story of our supply chain. No brand is perfect, and there is always more to be doing, but transparency helps track that.
For anyone overwhelmed with where to start with living a more sustainable lifestyle, what are your top fail-safe tips and practical solutions. Where does one begin?
I would begin at just recognising your everyday shopping habits, how much plastic you are using and checking the labels of your fashion garments. Do you know where that garment was made and the environmental impact of the material? Asking questions is very important and will reveal a lot about how much we do not know about the origins of that garment or product. Also, do some research and use the resources you have access to. For example, question how long it takes for plastic to biodegrade, because it’s easy to think that if plastic is recyclable it is okay, but plastic items can take up to 1000 years to decompose.
Your go-to eco-friendly swaps…
My absolute favourite are the Know The Origin reusable face wipes, which are an easy eco-friendly swap of cotton pads. Cotton is one of the thirstiest fibres, needing 2700 litres of water to produce one t-shirt. So, instead of throwing away your wipes or cotton pads, you can use your make-up remover on these reusable face wipes, pop them in the wash with the rest of your clothes and they come out clean and ready to use again and again.
One thing you’d never be caught buying?
I often get aggravated in a supermarket seeing people put fruit and vegetables in multiple plastic bags.. It can become an easy habit to reuse bags from home or pop them in a produce bag, made out of organic cotton and not plastic. I’m excited for the day when supermarket’s stop giving out plastic bags.
What are the things we need to consider when we’re buying clothes?
There are so many certifications out there so it can sometimes be confusing to what you should be looking for. One must is that you need to avoid buying clothes made out of synthetic fabrics, such as Polyester, Acrylic and Nylon. They have a very high environmental impact, omitting around 3 times the amount of Greenhouse emission as cotton. They also shed microplastics, which end up in our landfills and oceans, damaging our ecosystems and marine life.
What are the easiest ways a consumer can get caught out when trying to shop sustainably?
We are noticing a rise of brands that are strategically and deliberately repeating stories and jargon, as a way to look more transparent or ethical than they really are. Whilst, most brands publish little information about their efforts, if any, to improve pay and achieve living wages in the supply chain. Hardly any brands disclose their approach to achieving the payment of living wages to workers in the supply chain or about their purchasing practices.
I wrote a recent blog on how transparency isn’t the same as being ethical, focusing on the controversy of H&M being ranked first on Fashion Revolution’s Transparency Index. H&M or other brands might be transparent but that doesn’t mean their products are at all sustainable, child labour free, human trafficking free or add anything back into the communities they deplete from.
Are there any sustainability books /guides that come recommended by you?
How to give up plastic by Will McCallum is an amazing guide to how we can cut out plastic in our day to day life. Also, Lauren Bravo’s ‘how to break up with fast fashion’ is an honest and relatable depiction of how tough it is to go against the normality of shopping fast fashion, high street brands but loving clothes you already own and changing your shopping habits.
Image Credit : @rebecca_altman via Twitter
Essential viewing… your top fashion documentaries to watch?
Machines by director Rahul Jain creates a dizzying fly-on-the-wall experience of a fabric factory in India. This rare insight into sweatshop conditions is filmed stunningly with sweeping images of factory conditions mixed with powerful commentaries from the men (and boys) who work there. A brutally honest documentary that still gives me chills. Also, The True Cost, is a great documentary that follows the journey of our highstreet clothing, it highlights the people who make our clothes and the impact the fashion industry is having on communities and the environment globally. This film is filled with so many golden moments this is pretty much impossible to choose. The amazing Vandana Shiva bringing home the impact of pesticides on cotton farmers in India is definitely something that sticks with you.
We love Lucy & Yak, you collaborated with them last year – how did that come about and are you hoping to do any more collaborations this year?
It was amazing to collaborate with Lucy & Yak last Christmas, so many of our ethics and values aligned and our collection of ethical products definitely complemented each other. I actually met Lucy and Chris whilst we were in Brighton doing a pop-up shop, and we just thought it would be a great idea to join forces. We have huge plans for this year, watch this space on our gram.
Who inspires you in your line of work?
The countless brands that have gone before, the ones your heard of the ones that didn’t make it. They have all pioneered and paved a way to create a space where people freely talk about sustainable fashion.
What’s the biggest change you’d like to see happen within the fashion industry?
That the fast fashion brands will have to alter their business practices to not produce cheap, throwaway garments, but good quality garments that are made without child labour, modern slavery, environmental damage, to name a few. This will only shift, through people demanding more from brands.
What’s next for Know The Origin?
This year we’ve raised investment to grow. We are currently rebranding and building a new custom website to launch in September. We’re signing up for great certifications like 1% for the planet, B-corp. We are growing our team from three to ten, shifting the brand selection to big sustainable brands offering shoes, denim etc, all the items you will love. We are super excited to help grow and shape the sustainable space, whilst continuing to speak up about the things we care about.
If this year’s Father’s Day has crept up on you rather unexpectedly, we hope this handy guide gives you some inspiration if another year of pyjamas and shortbread isn’t quite cutting it.
Father’s Day: also known as the annual celebration in which every child struggles to find an appropriate gift for that certain hard to buy for someone.
If this year’s Father’s Day has crept up on you rather unexpectedly (understandably given that April felt so slow, May vanished in front of our eyes and June feels like it only started yesterday), we hope this handy guide gives you some inspiration if another year of pyjamas and shortbread isn’t quite cutting it.
A socially distanced celebration might mean this year feels different to the last, but the thought of belated Father’s Day BBQs and afternoon tea is enough to keep us going for now!
Cervical Screening Awareness Week Q&A: Dismantling The Fear of the Smear
Cervical screening rates are at their lowest in two decades, and while it is your choice whether to attend or opt-out of your smear test, we hope with the hub of information we provide, you can make the best decision for you and your health.
Dropping your underwear and clambering into stirrups is hardly the picture of elegance but a few minutes of embarrassment could be your best protection against cervical cancer.
Cervical screening rates are at their lowest in two decades, and while it is your choice whether to attend or opt-out of your smear test, we hope with the hub of information we provide, you can make the best decision for you and your health.
If you’re due a cervical screening test and you’re wondering whether to attend your appointment due to Covid-19, or you’re pondering all the most important questions like, should you take your shoes off and where do you put your pants? – then you’re in the right place.
We sat down with Nurse Jenny to get to the bottom of our burning questions! Here’s everything you need to know about cervical screening.
What is the latest advice for anyone who is due their smear test but is unsure whether to attend due to Covid-19?
Please attend your cervical screening appointment. The cervical screening programme in England is now sending out invitations and many GP surgeries are now opening their doors, but you will find that your appointment will seem a little different than before. Surgeries are putting safety measures into place, so please be reassured that it is for your best interest that we are being cautious. Find the latest information from Jo’s Trust here.
How old do you need to be to have a cervical screening test?
The screening programme is for anyone with a cervix from 24.5 years to 64 years
Why are smear tests important?
A cervical screen is important because it can pick up any abnormal cells before they develop into cervical cancer. If you have had HPV or cell changes, then it is even more important to have your cervical screen.
When is the best time to have a smear test?
If you are on any form of contraception, it really does not matter when you have your cervical screen, as long as you are not bleeding. However, if you are not using contraception, then the best time for a cervical screen is mid cycle, so 12-14 days after the first day of your period.
You will need to take your trousers and underwear off for your cervical screen.
What are the best clothes to wear for comfort and ease?
A skirt is a good idea as then you can use this for a bit of modesty. We do provide a modesty paper sheet, to cover your tummy.
Does a smear test hurt?
It should not hurt, but for some people, it can be uncomfortable. Your health care professional should have a wide range of speculum, which are inserted into your vagina. If the size chosen is uncomfortable, your HCP can use a smaller size.
Is bleeding after a smear test normal?
Yes, bleeding is often very normal and should only last a short while. Sometimes, if you have been on the contraceptive pill for a long time, bleeding can occur. This is because the oestrogen hormone in the pill can make the cervix bleed easily. It is ok for this to happen, but may also mean you need to change your contraception.
How long does it take to receive results?
In most parts of the country the results are taking about 2 weeks.
What is HPV?
Human Papillomavirus or HPV is the cause of about 99% of cervical cancers. HPV is a virus which is transmitted through sexual contact. It is a common virus, as common as a cough or cold, and in the majority of people, our immune system clears it naturally.
What does it mean if your results say you have ‘abnormal cells’?
This means that a strain of the HPV has been found in some of the cervical cells, which have caused some changes in the nucleus of the cell. There are well over a hundred different strains of the HPV virus. If we do not treat these abnormal cells, then they can develop into cervical cancer after several years.
What is the most common reason for missing a smear test?
Scared of the results, anxiety. Anxiety of undressing in front of a stranger. What is going to happen, pain, time. There is a whole host of reasons.
What can we do to dismantle the fear?
We can try and build a rapport with people. Explain the procedure. Show the speculum and different sizes. Let them insert the speculum themselves. Explain a smear test only takes seconds to perform.
How often should you have a smear test?
Every 3 years from 24.5-49yrs and every 5 years from 50 – 64 years. If there are any abnormal cells found, then people will be asked to attend more frequently (6months – 1 year).
If I have not had sex, do I still need to have a cervical screening?
It depends on what is meant by sex. If someone has a partner, HPV can live on sex toys and skin, so by having foreplay this can pass the HPV from one person to another.
Do I still need screening if I have had the HPV vaccination?
Yes. The Gardasil/ Cervarix vaccinations only cover 2 strains of the HPV, so as there are over 40 strains which can contribute/cause cervical cancer, then you definitely still need to attend cervical screening.
Do I still need screening if I have changed my gender?
If you have a cervix, then yes you definitely need to have a cervical screen.
